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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?
No one likes to be ignored, but with digital media, that's unfortunately something you will have to get used to.
People often read messages pretty quickly but do not always have the time to ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?
You can't expect people to answer you right away when you send them a written message. They might be busy, they might be too tired to answer, they might haven't taken any decision yet and so one. ...
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How to get friends/partner to stop texting me pointless pictures/videos
Welcome to the wise and wonderful world of being a curmudgeon. It's ok many of us stayed in the closet for years, but at some point, you just gotta embrace your inner angry old person and let it out.
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?
Just because it is called "instant message" doesn't mean you get an instant reply.
There are countless reasons why someone may not respond to a message. They might be driving, at work/school, or ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?
Ignoring IM's is part of proper use, start doing it, too.
View ignoring of instant messages (IM's) positively. Some more determined people are ignoring IM's intentionally as part of their personal ...
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How to nicely remind someone to reply to an important message without being rude?
With this messaging habit, nowadays, imo we tend to forget an easier and more direct way to get things done:
CALLING
You said he/she's a friend, therefore I think there's nothing (e.g. shyness) ...
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How to contact a girl whose number I got from somebody else?
Contact Alex or his bandmate again and ask him to forward her your number and a brief explanation: you very much enjoyed talking to her at the concert and would like to meet her again if she's ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?
You give them a call.
Email, IM, text messages are asynchronous media. You can't expect people to drop what they are doing to answer you. Read / Received receipts mean the message was delivered and (...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?
The fact he read your message doesn't imply that he has to reply.
I know this might sound rude, but it's perfectly fine to not answer when someone you barely know sends you a message.
There are ...
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How to contact a girl whose number I got from somebody else?
I would just contact her because really, if she did like you, it will not be creepy to her, it will be welcome. Just be very apologetic:
I'm sorry to be calling/texting you but this is the only way ...
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How to get friends/partner to stop texting me pointless pictures/videos
Maybe try being honest with them. Instead of short replies, I say things about what I got & try to stay polite, but not convey any sense of enjoyment. I might say something like
Hey so you ...
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How to reply to unknown texter?
Judging from the content of the message you give as an example, the sender of the message could be assuming you're someone else. It's not unusual for women to give fake numbers to strangers who flirt ...
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How can I better control my desire (or need) to send long messages?
"Be concise."
I have always had the same problem. In a nutshell, I found the trouble is I over-explain and go on relevant but unnecessary tangents. Somewhere in those 5000 words will be one or two ...
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The issue of phones (or how to politely read a text)
You can just say it is a text/call you were expecting from a family member. The reason this works is due to 2 factors
You bring up the fact that you are about to check your phone, this is not ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?
How can I set boundaries to let people know I expect a reply, even if it's like "I don't feel like doing this anymore"?
Boundaries are supposed to protect what is precious to you. You first need to ...
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Cellphone-obsessed friend (and driver)
You're right and you're wrong about your assumptions. You certainly cannot force him to not text and drive, as he is an adult. However, he is endangering your safety and if that bothers you then you ...
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How to get friends/partner to stop texting me pointless pictures/videos
Just don't respond.
No one will care and for the few people who do mention it ('didja see my email with the kitten in a bow-tie? wasn't it hilarious?'), just say you prefer lolcode to lolcats.
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?
TL;DR
The "instant" in instant messaging is a horrible misnomer. It isn't instant, and it's frustrating to expect it to be so. It engenders confusion in reasonable people.
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"Instant" ...
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How do I approach my date about texting less?
It doesn't seem that the problem is that he texts you frequently -- after all, it can be rather nice to have someone give you that much of their attention. Instead it's the fact that you feel it's ...
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How to reply to unknown texter?
Just be straightforward.
Tell them you don’t recognize their number and explain why (even if you should have it). For some of my situations I like to say:
Hey! Thanks for the message. I don’t ...
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How can I communicate better with my indirect friends as a direct person?
I'll start with different people are different, and what works to communicate with one person may not work for others. It's possible you'll need different techniques for one or more of your friends.
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How to appear less insensitive when texting with women I would like to date?
I may be wrong here, but I see in your responses a pattern of needing to share your opinion on everything, and needing to be right as well. Let me offer you some words you could use in response to ...
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How can I make sure that my ex's friend will help me to work out the situation?
As I understand it, the Taoist view of relationships is, broadly, that love must constantly change to grow with those involved. I'm not a Taoist, but I'd agree with that statement, and a similar idea ...
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How to react when my girlfriend allows others to insult me to her?
Be Honest
When in doubt, just tell her how you feel about it. Let her know that while you love her, you don't appreciate it/it hurts you (be vulnerable) when she talks to her friends like that about ...
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How to contact a girl whose number I got from somebody else?
Your own suggested text message seems fine. I would make a minor change (I'm not picking on the grammar as I guess it will be written in German and we just have your English translation):
"Hi, this ...
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How to let people know I don't appreciate being ignored in instant messaging?
I would suggest following up with information on why a reply is important. Thinking about why you need a reply will help you deal with delays in messages.
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How to nicely remind someone to reply to an important message without being rude?
I'd say something along the lines of:
'Hi, just wondering if you'd seen my message. I'd really appreciate staying with you, but if you can't then no problem, let me know soon so I can book a hotel ...
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