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I'll start with different people are different, and what works to communicate with one person may not work for others. It's possible you'll need different techniques for one or more of your friends. I also tend to be a direct person. But it's also not always about how direct one is; for some people it's about the apparent potential for confrontation. ...


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I have a friend who has a difficult family situation that causes her to sometimes go into the 'emotionally drained' state; what I do is regularly remind her that I care about her without requiring/expecting her to respond. Once in a while (about once a week or so), I send a message like, "Thinking of you, I hope things are going well." Sometimes I ask her ...


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People are complicated. What is platonic to some can be the beginnings of a major relationship for others. How things got to be the way they are tends to be a really important thing to understand before you can worry about how to fix things. This is, unfortunately, difficult to do when the person is avoiding you. You can talk to other people that know ...


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is there a better way? Possible misinterpretation Assuming there are no more relevant details to the situation you describe: note that being ignored is your interpretation of the situation. The people you texted might be busy with their own life, thinking about their answer to you or maybe plainly forgot about your text. Things happen. If they do ...


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The thing is : you're alone. Your friends are comfortable using the current messaging app. It might slightly bother them that you can't join the chat, but well they did it so far and there was not any problem. But what if you were not alone ? Think of it : what happen if 2 or 3 or your friends moved to another chatting app with you ? The group is now ...


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I think you're actually not asking directly enough. If someone asks me Are you free Thursday night? I don't know what they're actually about to ask - do they want me to meet them for a one hour dinner? A three hour concert? Do they want me to hang out for boardgames with a larger group of their friends that I don't know? I want a way to gracefully ...


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I am concerned that you are worried more about your own ability to remain in contact with her, than with her desire to stay in contact with you. You say: it's just tough when I want to help and support but cannot find a way to do so if there is limited communication. In your comment, you add: I want to let her know that I really appreciate her ...


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It seems like you are both on a different pages when it comes to "response etiquette" which is normal. Some people respond to a text within seconds and others it takes more time, even weeks in your circumstance. I have a feeling it is less about time-sensitive questions/issues you need an answer to versus wanting to continue a healthy 2-way correspondence, ...


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Ok, so this seems like a conflict of interest (in the literal sense) here. I haven't faced this very exact scenario as you describe before. But the problem I see here is something I am very familiar with and I will tell you how I usually approach such situations. So getting into your first question. How do I explain to my friends that not being in the ...


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