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I don't want to make a free website anymore. Also concerned person may have signed up for auto-renewing hosting
I am part of an association where we offer to make websites for free given certain conditions to people that aren't all very tech-savy. We have to manage our day work and several projects in parallel, ...
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How do I argue in an impersonal manner?
I have a good friend with whom I disagree about a lot of things and with whom I often have spirited debates. Because we are so close, I don't ever get angry with him, but I do sometimes get ...
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How and when should I bring up to dates that I am a gun owner?
You may be overthinking this. I don't have much experience dating (and I'm Dutch, not Canadian), but one thing that invariably came up in any conversation where I was getting to know strangers better ...
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How can I communicate better with my indirect friends as a direct person?
I'll start with different people are different, and what works to communicate with one person may not work for others. It's possible you'll need different techniques for one or more of your friends.
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Family of migraine patient - how to help kids understand violent outbursts of migraine patient (mother) in response to noise
First, let me argue with your "it's ok for my wife to hit my daughter because she gets migraines" theory. I get migraines, have for decades. I got one this week that interacted with a tooth ...
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Dealing with criticism of my mispronunciation of words
Just like when you are faced with other kind of criticism: whether it is right or wrong, say thank you, appreciate their criticism, and say you'll work out your pronounciation better next time.
It is ...
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How to ask parents to stop screaming at other sibling?
While you live in India, if what this article about parent-child relationships in India states about parents not wanting to stop treating their kids as kids, even when they're 20 or 30 years old, is ...
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How to have someone work on being on time and communicate it if they're late?
I'll put aside the cultural component here. Paying attention to culture is important, but that needs to happen from both sides.
First of all, it is nearly impossible to change someone else's ...
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How do I argue in an impersonal manner?
I found it interesting that in your discussion scenario, you mentioned only two possible outcomes. Either you meet somewhere "in the middle" or the other person is frustrated.
What happens when you ...
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How can we convince grandmother to use the dishwasher?
Having been in the exact same situation, I'll shared my experience on the subject. Background is about the cleanliness level of china and silverware and integrity of the cold chain for food. Result ...
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How can I communicate better with my indirect friends as a direct person?
I think you're actually not asking directly enough.
If someone asks me
Are you free Thursday night?
I don't know what they're actually about to ask - do they want me to meet them for a one hour ...
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How to get someone to speak more clearly (with less idioms)?
I was admittedly more often Bob-like than on your side of the problem but this is what helped me, also when facing the problem myself:
Address a single occurrence on the spot
Prepare yourself, stay ...
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How can I assist my girlfriend to be independent and career minded
You probably can't do these things. She is behaving true to her culture and upbringing. She is hoping to change you into a gentleman like she witnessed in her homeland, while you are trying to change ...
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Dress code due to worry about staining lounge and homeware for casual get together
Any chance you could include fun activities around the dress code?
For example, when it was my father's retirement party, the dress code was blue and white colour. Invitations were oral, not written. ...
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How to tell about a deal-breaker without it sounding like an ultimatum
In my opinion, what you are trying to do is setting up a boundary (punctuality) which is good, but you want to translate the responsibility of breaking up if the boundary keeps being broken onto her, ...
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Dealing with criticism of my mispronunciation of words
Above all, it’s a learning experience, and that should be your main focus.
There are things you would rather know sooner rather than later: something stuck to your shoe, a male’s fly is open, and ...
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How to make sure to get non-alcoholic beer at a bar?
Tl;Dr: Don't overthink this. Make fun of it, make fun of yourself. And take it easy.
This is strongly dependent on where you are from. I am from Czech Republic, the country that is steadily in top ...
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How to communicate to a fellow student of the opposite sex that avoids me that I have no interest in her whatsoever
People are complicated. What is platonic to some can be the beginnings of a major relationship for others.
How things got to be the way they are tends to be a really important thing to understand ...
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Landlord was knocking on my door close to midnight regarding a (minor) complaint (that I had nothing to do with)
I don't think your suggested statement will address your concerns. Your landlord could be justified in knocking on your day late at night in some cases, such as if you're being very noisy. Even if ...
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A friend always talks in dry-professional language even though being very close to me for years
The issue - cross-cultural communication
As you clarified that your friend is from a different country than you and therefore, not an English native speaker and not raised in the same culture as you, ...
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What are the effects of using a verbal tic in informal speech?
A verbal tic might have impact on someone else understanding your speech based on a WebMD article on tics. I cited WebMD not because you have a disorder, but becuase it it the closest hard evidence I ...
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How to tell about a deal-breaker without it sounding like an ultimatum
It doesn't help that your problem isn't really lateness, but something else you don't want to mention. Still, I'm going to answer as though it was lateness.
When you are not on your way somewhere, ...
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People assuming dead person's intentions
People can't read thoughts and can't really know what are things that could comfort you through grief. Usually people either copy what is the social norm where you live by in expressing condolences, ...
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How can I be honest and supportive?
Being supportive does not always mean to say, "Yes, take the job, I love you. I am so happy for you and support you with my whole heart. Go with my blessing and grab while the grabbing's good."
That ...
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How to explain to family that I don't want to keep fixing the same tech problems?
You have a valid problem. Possibly your family does not realize how they are inconveniencing you. Most likely your mother loves having you over so much that any excuse will suffice. At some point you ...
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Me and my close friend often have phases when we do not talk to each other
Dit you contact them to say how your travel was going? Is there a reason why you are waiting for them to initiate contact? Maybe they are just waiting for you to start chatting first because they don'...
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How to have friend doing a favour sign a contract without making it look like I'm taking advantage of him?
Create a contract which benefits both of you equally.
This will probably require you to compromise on some of the terms. For example, you say you want to be free to do anything at all with the video, ...
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How to get someone to speak more clearly (with less idioms)?
As mentioned in comments, there is nothing wrong in asking for explanation about what he means and you can also can tell him to stop talking to you that way.
Approach him and say it as you want, but, ...
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How to tell a colleague to lower down her Christmas spirit in office event organising?
Telling a person that their ideas need improvement or don't fit the bill always involves some risk to goodwill and friendship. To complicate matters, there are in my experience two opposite types of ...
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