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awarded  Nice Answer
Jan
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revised How can my family and I reconcile with my son-in-law?
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Jan
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answered How can my family and I reconcile with my son-in-law?
Jan
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answered How to ask my mother to stop giving me unsolicited (health related) advices?
Jan
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comment How can I warn my friend about getting into a relationship with someone I deeply distrust?
Another thing to keep in mind is that you should not put yourself in the situation of "warning" B about C. The danger in this is if/when the relationship ends badly, B may blame you, or at least when she is looking for outlets for her unhappiness you may become a target. I've seen this happen before, we used to call it the Bad Boyfriend phenomenon. A parent who tries to break up their child's bad relationship can damage relationship with said child because of the blame game.
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comment Bringing up financial concerns with partner’s parents
Wish I could upvote this more than once. It's really something every prospective set of partners ought to do in the first bloom of their income consolidation. Creating a budget and having a commitment to it from both partners is a huge step toward avoiding a major source of relationship stress, ie, money.
Dec
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awarded  Custodian
Dec
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reviewed No Action Needed Duplicate gifted magazine subscription, how can I tell one of them?
Dec
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answered How to handle someone who never gets important stuff done
Dec
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comment How do I politely tell people in public I won't give out my e-mail?
It's easy to grab a "junk" email off yahoo or gmail. I find it less of a hassle to just put in this junk email than to explain why I don't want them to have my email.
Nov
25
comment How to help an elderly paranoid parent?
I hope it helps. I'd recommend finding advice about how to help aging parents who won't help themselves. It is sad, but eventually decisions regarding your mother's care and life may have to be taken out of her hands. I had three grandparents who lived to their nineties, and two of the three had to be institutionalized because of their deteriorating mental condition.
Nov
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answered How to help an elderly paranoid parent?
Oct
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comment How to tell about a deal-breaker without it sounding like an ultimatum
It may even be that she can't make it on time, even if she wants to. I have severe ADHD and this is a problem which has plagued me my whole life. My husband understands that if he absolutely needs me to get somewhere on time he needs to call me when I need to leave and probably do a followup call to make sure I have left. And I, in turn, have learned to respond to his reminders with the gratitude they deserve. Either she can get places on time or not. If not, OP needs to find out sooner rather than later.
Oct
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answered Offered a colleague a ride home - wondering whether her response was a hint not to ask her again!
Oct
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awarded  Enlightened
Oct
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awarded  Nice Answer
Oct
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answered How can I tell a friend about a future trip without upsetting another friend, who wants me to hold the truth about it?
Sep
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comment How to communicate better with my wife when she is in a bad mood and is slightly mean to me?
+1 for the therapist suggestion. I can also see my husband and I in this interaction. If we hadn't sought counseling I don't know if we would still be married. Irritations like this do not die down on their own, they multiply as one irritation leads to another. A professional can help you develop habits and coping strategies that don't push each others' buttons.
Sep
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comment Resolving conficts with customers as a waiter
This is what they taught us when I worked as a student for a casino. Leave the money visible, do not tuck anything away until the customer agrees that the transaction is complete.
Sep
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comment How to stop paying for my parent's poor financial decisions?
@anon, I think asking "What should I do?" is what is putting this question on hold. You are in a very tough position and I think your need is clear, perhaps if you replaced your last paragraph with your goal, for example "I want to find a way to support my family but without sacrificing my own future but I don't see any way to do that". Also, a few more details would be helpful. How old are your siblings? What conversations have you had with your parent so far? Are there any other adult relatives who might help? How large is your town? (larger towns have more resources available)