TOOGAM
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How can I ask if something's free, without looking stingy?
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Is that extra, or included? It's a way to inquire about pricing while not actually saying any specific word that is heavily financial in nature. Or, simply, "How much is that?" By inquiring about ...

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How can I avoid the awkwardness of a returning player who wears a low-cut shirt?
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Point One: Other answers suggest that you don't even bring this up. That may be the best advice, and I don't mean to contradict that, especially for your next meeting. However, I also realize that ...

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Is it rude to ask someone where they are from originally?
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I don't find it rude. I was born in one hemisphere, raised for 10 years in one area of another, and then traveled to the far end of the continent that I was on. Throughout my teens and twenties (and ...

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Is adding “let me know if anything is unclear” to an e-mail really necessary or is it redundant?
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"Let me know if anything is unclear" can be a very useful sentence. The references to numerical words (First through Fifth) are not intended to indicate a specific order, but just to help point out ...

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When is replying a chat with "thanks", "OK", appropriate?
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Send it. I will tell you, based on personal experience, when you send a message that says "Thanks", there is potential for that to be really, really annoying. Let me explain why it can be even more ...

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Who should identify themself first on the phone: the caller or the person called?
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I am absolutely used to not mentioning my identity first if I am making the call. That is simply out of sheer politeness. I was taught that the caller always identified himself immediately. That'...

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How to ask a friend to repay me?
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Sometimes I've treated people close to me (including family) worse than others. I've done this knowingly because I know that I've built up a good relationship with them, and that relationship is ...

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What are appropriate gender-agnostic alternatives to sir/ma'am?
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"Excuse me! Sir! You left your card behind." Or if I were a steward on a train I'd naturally say "Ma'am, Please move your bag from the aisle." In both of these circumstances, replacing Sir/Ma'am with ...

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How do I correct my daughter's teacher's grammar?
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How do I correct... Privately. Do it, but do it privately. As noted by Michael Thomas Greer's answer, the "always use 'and I'" rule has been widely taught (to many people and I). Fellow students ...

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What is the current etiquette in the US and UK regarding a man holding doors for female companions?
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Ask her. I don't necessarily mean verbally asking a question. As you hold the door, look her in the eye and see what she wants. Some women like having the door held. Some would prefer you just go ...

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How can I convincingly communicate to a friend that I don't have a 'personal' mobile number?
1 votes

Give the person some ability to make their own judgements. This answer is inspired by me having seen your name before, and recognizing a sort of pattern to some of your questions. Each of these have ...

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How can I convince my partner to accept my best friend instead of wanting to break up?
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Your question has one extremely confusing element in it: You mention: My partner I my best friend You say that as if these are three different people. The reason this seems confusing is that how ...

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How does one respond to statements like "It's all yours"?
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I've been just muttering a "Thank you," but that is also unnecessary (thanks for what? Being done? Or "allowing" me to use the machine?) and I'm afraid that can come across as sarcastic. How ...

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How can I stop enabling my brothers without my mom exploding?
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The bold question: You've made your point. Now, drop it. I'm starting by focusing on this question which was posted with bold text: How can I get my mom to understand that I'm not responsible ...

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What is the most respectful way to respond when invited into a prayer circle or other religious activity I don't believe in?
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but I don't know if I should bow my head, This is meant to show respect, symbolically indicating bowing to God. If you don't see a reason to show such respect to God, then I don't see why you should ...

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How can I decline someone's business card with tact?
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This ought to work alright in a 1v1 setting: Like any other unwanted gift that someone may try to impose upon you... When try try to hand you the card, just adjust your hand so your extended ...

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How can I say I want to be left alone without having to explain myself or lie about it?
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Me: Oh you don't need to, I can go alone. Them: I'd like to have a walk so I'm joining! "No thank you. I was actually trying/planning to use this time to have a moment to myself. You know... "me ...

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How do I respond when an acquaintance asks if I'm smart?
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Try accepting it. You're really smart. "Yes, I do have quite a bit of expertise about some things. Although, there are other areas in life where other people are quite a bit smarter than me." [...

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How can I ask someone I've never met to type quieter?
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Sometimes things just don't go our way. If you control the work environment, well, then, great! You're in control. If not, then you're not. Comment 9541 : I'm from one country, this took place ...

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Dreamt of another girl, want to tell my girlfriend, but how without getting smited?
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I agree with the widespread consensus. Don't tell her. I have a couple of reasons that may differ a bit from other answers. I'll give you my two reasons first, and then elaborate on both. #1: A ...

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Dad wants me to invite his mother to my wedding. How to push it back?
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How can I push my father's decision back? Appease him. Tell him that your decisions are made, even if they are the wrong decisions. There was a time when the possibility of persuasion could have ...

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How to stop family from pushing me to forgive and forget?
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How to stop family from pushing me to forgive and forget? Forgive and forget. Seriously, if you do that, why would they keep pushing you to do that? Why should that be my responsibility? Because ...

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