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Losing interest in girl I date because too slow dating
116 votes

Personally, I feel that that starting a long term relationship after meeting 4-5 times over a single month is "fast" rather than "slow". Since you've already started to lose interest after 4-5 dates, ...

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How can I address a man talking inappropriately about women?
70 votes

You don't usually want to start a discussion, you don't want to attack them, so don't try things like "Now I see how you are still single". Merely express your displeasure: Not cool, man. There ...

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How to deal with unwanted attention at the swimming pool?
59 votes

What you ended up doing, while a perfectly normal reaction, was actually quite dangerous. You retreated to a place with (presumably) no other people, (presumably) only a single exit, and the only ...

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Is it rude to ask if a pregnancy was planned?
22 votes

Few parents want their children to know they weren't intended, so it's a question where often only one answer is acceptable. Thus if it wasn't planned you're forcing them to lie, which is not nice. If ...

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How to handle my girlfriend's parents' attitude to asking her for money?
18 votes

We only have very indirect and incomplete information about the situation to go on. While we can provide advice, you can get far better advice from someone more knowledgeable about the situation. ...

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How to figure out why a stranger is being angry and irrationally insulting you?
12 votes

"And I think most of them are playing in a competitive manner the game as I do as they1 want to win" I think this is where you're wrong. People who want to win don't play an online game that gives ...

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How to ask someone to stop wasting water without sounding rude or hurting their feelings?
10 votes

You hint at it, by not wasting water yourself on the sink next to theirs. You may also try to bring up the topic of saving water in small talk, without discussing their use of water. Don't start the ...

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How can I say I am an outstanding leader without sounding arrogant?
9 votes

Break things down. An IT professional applying for an IT job will not get the job if their CV truthfully says I'm good with computers. As a born leader with strong leadership qualities you will ...

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Answer to: "Why aren't you with your boyfriend right now?"
8 votes

One thing you can do for the people who have already established the pattern of asking this question is shorten the conversation: They: Why are/were you not with [boyfriend] right now/tomorrow/next ...

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How can I tactfully interrupt a customer service representative over the phone?
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The rep was trying to guilt you into listening their spiel, possibly because that's what they are expected to do by their employer, or possibly because emotions during a long day got the better of ...

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Is it rude to ignore everybody else in a chatroom and only talk with one person?
7 votes

It's at the very least unsmart. You're holding a public conversation, in a public space, broadcasting the conversation to every person in the chatroom. By abusing a public chatroom for a private ...

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How to recover from being falsely seen as a racist?
6 votes

It was your mistake, and not a big one*. You own it, apologize once while you mean it (consider offering a beverage), and that's all there is to it. And if it comes back to haunt you as a running gag/...

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How to stop classmate from bullying me
5 votes

The common advice against bullying is to ignore. Unfortunately, ignoring bullies can and often will lead to group dynamics where you become the designated punching bag. If the bully gets a positive ...

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How to be firm on what I need without causing offense?
5 votes

Ask your preferred phlebotomist to make a note on your file. If you get someone else, mention the file and briefly summarize the reason. Just a heads up, previously there have been issues when ...

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Is it rude to "sexile" someone the night before a test?
5 votes

Asking someone to not sleep in their own bed is asking for a favor. Insisting on it is being an ass (unless there's a real reason, such as the building being on fire). Withdrawing a promised favor ...

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How can I ask my girlfriend to split gas money for a long trip?
3 votes

Manage Expectations. Imagine a friend is doing you a simple favor, one which all your other friends have done for you before for free, and when he's finished he's suddenly giving you a bill. A bill ...

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How to avoid short answers when talking to my family?
3 votes

The trick to smalltalk for beginners is to find in yourself a genuine interest* in a topic the person you're talking with is interested, and ideally knowledgeable. Then let them do the talking. ...

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Dad wants me to invite his mother to my wedding. How to push it back?
3 votes

You intended to invite 5 people and ended up with 7 times as many. That makes it pretty clear that the only reason for your problem is that you don't know how to say no. You just tell your father "No,...

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How to deal with a person that does something wrong like littering or hitting a dog and yells at you when you tell them that they did something wrong?
3 votes

One problem about approaching people and telling them that they are wrong is that our own assessment sometimes makes us see a clear-cut situation where moral ambiguity exists, and right and wrong are ...

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What’s the best way to decline sharing my WiFi network with neighbours?
2 votes

I'm sorry, as a house rule we don't share passwords with people outside of family. If you need to look something up, I can bring you the family tablet. Mention that it's a house/family rule, which ...

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Friend wants rare vinyl record collection back after 7 years
2 votes

Other answers focus on telling you that your friend has some ethical/moral rights to the collection. But that's not what you asked. Sit down with your friend, preferably in a neutral place like a ...

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How can I convince my significant other that $1000 per night is too much for a hotel?
2 votes

You are doomed. If you do go to the luxury hotel you'll be unhappy, if you don't she'll be unhappy. Simply convincing her to go to the cheaper place won't fix this, because as long as she believes ...

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Can I give flowers to a feminist as a present for hosting a party?
2 votes

It depends what kind of feminist you're talking about. If you're talking about a person who loves to make everything a gender problem, is easily offended, and also happens to be a woman, you may be in ...

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How do I decline contact with a previous buyer?
2 votes

If you're uncomfortable with verbal communication, agree to written communication. When you contact her express your honest sympathies that her car broke down. Offer her any kind of assistance she ...

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How to deal with a friend I live with who doesn't want to pay bills when he's not there?
2 votes

Your friend stated that he won't pay the bill anymore. That's the start of the discussion, not the end. It's an attempt at a pushy negotiation tactic. What he actually did was starting a negotiation, ...

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Arguing science with a passionate non-scientist?
2 votes

Arguing is about winning the argument. What you're looking to do is not arguing but convincing. Convincing is not something that can be done easily if you're trying to convince someone who is already ...

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Message being seen but not responded, what is the correct response?
1 votes

Unfortunately, it's way more complicated than you believe it is. Fortunately, it's also much simpler. That doesn't make sense, which is what gives people on the autism spectrum such a hard time. ...

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How do I ask for "forgiveness" after asking a good friend's ex out?
1 votes

The one important thing is to tell him with the minimum necessary amount of details, because these are what stings. "Since when" is usually one of the necessary details - if the breakup is recent they ...

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How do I get people to stop excessively calling me on the phone without alienating them
1 votes

The suggestion to text is good. Another - or additional - approach is to introduce quite hours - many phones allow you to set quiet hours/do not disturb where the phone either does not ring, or only ...

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How to ask someone not to lie?
1 votes

Accusing someone of lying doesn't go over well. Snooping (aka invading privacy) on someone doesn't go over well. They will claim the game was running in the background, making you the only one who's ...

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