WeaselADAPT
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How do I respond when someone is glad their loved one's suffering will end soon due to death?
18 votes

For many reasons stated elsewhere in this thread (it's best to follow the grieving person's lead, while offering any support you can), I would keep it simple. That should help you avoid accidentally ...

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How to accept an apology, without implying that there was no problem?
13 votes

I am delighted to see the question and the interactions. I am (or try to be) a student of life, and I feel I've learned something today. I suggest: "I'm fine; thank you." If he seems ...

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Using reserved "disabled parking" with a disability people cannot see
7 votes

From the perspective of a person with a visible disability who quite often finds people parking in the Accessible Parking spots for truly no good reason, it is somewhat heartening, I guess, to hear ...

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Managing unrealistic customer expectations?
5 votes

As a computer programmer, I've faced the issue of end users saying, "make it do [this]," when they didn't really have any idea what they were asking, but it is part of the designer/...

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Should I help pay for a traffic ticket someone got while helping me?
3 votes

The only way you should feel obliged to help him pay for this ticket is if something about him helping you directly caused him to get the ticket, and I don't believe that his being on the road at that ...

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How can I politely tell someone I won't do my job for free?
3 votes

As a freelance editor, I run into this quite a bit. I appear to just be sitting at home, and I am an editor, so "why not just tidy up my resume real quick," etc. My go-to line, that I try to deliver ...

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How to respond to someone when they ask how much you earn?
3 votes

Evident by the number of varying answers here, you certainly have a lot of directions you could go with a response. Whatever you choose to say should take into account two related but distinct ...

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How to ignore someone who is stalking you?
2 votes

I understand that you would like to avoid any confrontation with her, but I believe the best way through this is not to ignore her but to address the issue briefly and directly: "Ma'am? Really, ...

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Is it possible for my friend to resume communication with his unofficial sister without earning her husband's mistrust?
2 votes

"Is it possible for my friend to resume communication with his unofficial sister without earning her husband's mistrust?" Well, anything is possible, but there will very likely be negative ...

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How do I correct my daughter's teacher's grammar?
1 votes

How can I make sure the teacher is taught the correct rule in the least offensive manner? To be "taught the correct rule" would be for him to know, forever thereafter and with certainty, ...

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What to do when another person believes that you are ignorant?
1 votes

It may not be what you're looking for, but what you really need in these situations is a combination of patience and humor. You know that you were not in the wrong in the situations you mention here, ...

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How to tell people they should feel free to drop by, without necessarily inviting them?
1 votes

It's possible that this is happening with your mother ... because she's your mother. As such, it may be all but impossible to affect the desired outcome by simply posing the invitation differently – ...

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Partner reading my phone messages
0 votes

Am I in the right or in the wrong? Did I overreact? Does a partner have the 'right' to do this? A lot of this depends on how mature your relationship is and your mutual values. It sounds to me like ...

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How to politely ask someone if they want to eat my (leftover) food?
0 votes

You say the impression you're getting is that your coworkers feel you're offering them handouts as though they are homeless. I don't think you're reading their reactions correctly. You said... I ...

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How can I decline or redirect a religiously-objectionable community-service project without alienating people?
-1 votes

Because people are people, you're right that your coworkers are likely to have the reactions you've predicted in response to the various approaches you've already considered. Ultimately, it comes down ...

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When is it okay to ask "stupid" questions in the workplace?
-1 votes

When is it OK to ask "stupid" questions? Whenever you need to! You're absolutely right that it is very common for people to find themselves in these situations. The reason for that is that no one ...

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