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In an online conversation, is it okay to use "guys" to address everyone?
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Sure, it's fine to use it, guys! It's fine as long as it's informal. I use it all the time, even at work among colleagues of either sex. I have heard it being used almost my entire life, every city I'...

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Dealing with people who always try to prove you wrong in a conversation
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¯\_(ツ)_/¯ It's almost always a no-win situation when two people argue or debate over something (and especially when temper has reached critical levels). What I suggest is to pretend to agree with ...

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How do I say no to a stranger asking to borrow my bicycle for a minute?
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Stranger: Can I borrow your bike for a minute? You don't know them or have any mutual friends. You have no guarantee that they will return it in time and in good condition. They have not mentioned ...

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How to ask someone to stop playing music without sounding religious?
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First of all, not everyone interprets the religion the same way. Some consider it haram, some don't. There's not much you can do here to change others. To your friends who already know your beliefs, ...

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How should one respond to trivial, obvious questions?
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It's mostly that the asker is just trying to make small talk and found nothing genius to ask. It's not making a good impression, but it's still a very normal question to ask and something that ...

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How to tell friends something goes against my religion?
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Don't mention the religion Only let your friends know that you personally find their constant swearing disturbing. If they care, they will control it. To strangers, don't mention anything. Let them be....

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How to avoid an awkward situation when someone just thoroughly slammed something you like?
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Different people like different things. EL&U Just listen to what he has to say, and stay neutral about it. There's no need to visibly agree or disagree with him. You like what you like, he likes ...

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How can I respond when someone asks me when I'm going to get married to my girlfriend?
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Why do you ask? This is straightforward deflection. Or, simply go with: I'd rather not say. Because it's also a polite alternative to "none of your business" That's a personal (or private) ...

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How do I continue to be quiet without being rude?
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I'm very much like you. I don't talk unless I have to. My words are scarce. It's safe to assume that you're doing okay so far and that people aren't considering you as a rude employee. What would ...

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How to politely ask people to pick up the litter they threw, especially if they don't own up
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For one, many Indians have no room for hygiene or discipline in their lives. They have this attitude: "Meh, it's already dirty here." and throw away things onto the streets. I probably would've ...

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How do I correct my daughter's teacher's grammar?
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There's no reason to correct the teacher, unless it is something you see often repeated. Everybody makes miskates. And in case you wish to correct this, do so as an aside to something else, subtly. I ...

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What is the right way to refer to someone with dark brown skin who is not African American?
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Use black (adjective, the color) itself to describe the person, if absolutely necessary, i.e. black person or dark-skinned or dark-complexioned. Never refer to them or address them as a black (noun). ...

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Who should identify themself first on the phone: the caller or the person called?
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The caller should identify themselves first. That is the best approach when calling someone who doesn't know you already or have your name in their contacts. But the recent changes could be because: ...

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What to do if I suspect my friend is stealing from me?
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He's innocent until proven guilty. It's possible that his presence was merely a coincidence, or maybe you or someone else just misplaced those items and forgot about it. To directly deal with him, you ...

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How should a person be told to apologise when he thinks he isn't wrong?
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Here's the thing about Indian classrooms Teachers usually expect "pindrop silence" and undivided attention when they're teaching, and complete "obedience" in general. That is, ...

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Dismissing questions about shameful disease at work
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On second thought, thanks to Kerkyra's comments on my previous answer, it would sometimes be preferable to even lie a bit. For example, dismiss your annoying coworker's question with a catch-all ...

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How to reply to a message or email after a long delay?
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An explanation for the delay is often unnecessary I second what LMGagne said, an explanation is unnecessary (unless they specifically ask for one), and will only cause more attention to be drawn to ...

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How to implicitly remind an absent minded friend to return his debt?
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It's your good friend, so go ahead, ask away. "Do you remember that time I had to pay for the tickets? Do you think you can repay it in the coming days?" or something. It should turn out well, ...

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As a runner, should I move onto the road to avoid a collision?
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You, the runner, should opt for the road, not the walker. You're running; hence more alert, aware of your surroundings. The walking pedestrian may be daydreaming. Walkers might also have disabilities ...

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How to handle a younger sibling being verbally bullied, with sometimes racist remarks, at school?
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Make racist remarks back at him? NOPE. When they go low, you don't. You have two equally valid options remaining: Tell the teacher. or Ignore him. If this is a one-off retaliation after he got the ...

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How to tactfully ask if someone is from the same ethno-religious group as I am?
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An idea that has worked for me is to mention about my own background or faith first, and if they wish to join in, that's a good way to get to know theirs. Straight up asking theirs would not go over ...

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When in queue at the supermarket, how do I get my personal space?
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If I have a cart with me: I keep it in a way that the person behind me will come after my cart. So I have control over how close they can come towards me. I stay a bit behind the person currently ...

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What is the most respectful way to respond when invited into a prayer circle or other religious activity I don't believe in?
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If you're in particular invited to join a prayer session you wish to not join, you may stay away from it, no need to feel obliged. And if asked for a reason, be honest, I'm not a Christian, but ...

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How to respond to "I'm bothering you" when I do think they're bothering me?
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A possible reason for these half-apologies is that they are already imagining how you might feel, looking at the situation from your perspective. To these half-apologies, the nicest thing would be to ...

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Explaining why I don't use social media
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Why not be honest about it? Tell the askers what you told us. I don't really like it. So I avoid it. Besides, you can contact me through (other ways listed here) That should be enough. It's not ...

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What should I do if I have a nosebleed in the middle of a meeting?
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I would say it depends on the situation. It'd be fine to hold a tissue to it for a minute or two. Holding it for an hour would be distracting. If it's in any way a distraction to others in the ...

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How to politely decline a friend request from a colleague who wants to add me on Facebook?
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Let it be. If friend requests come from people I don't really feel like sharing my personal photos and stuff with, I don't accept, I don't decline, I just ignore it. They'll automatically become ...

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How can I respond to a false statement when the other person doesn't give me a chance to talk?
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“Yeah, well, you know, that's just, like, your opinion, man.” — The Dude, The Big Lebowski (1998). It's definitely impolite, taken out of context. I respond in such fun fashion to friends closest to ...

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How can I make sure my friends keep secrets?
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Once you share it, a secret has a life of its own. It's no longer in your control. Trust is one of the pillars of friendship. Do not let your secrets out in the first place, unless you absolutely ...

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How do I maintain eye contact with someone as a listener if it makes my body physically uncomfortable?
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It's okay to look away every 4, 5 seconds. If you're talking to just one person, feel free to look away every 4 or 5 seconds, but make sure to not look down, as looking down may show disinterest. ...

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