Giacomo1968
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How to help my mother work through extreme anxieties?
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However, over the years (especially since I have moved out) this behavior has escalated. Her old behaviors still persist, but there is a new behavior which (I feel) is inhibiting her ability to live a ...

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How do you deal with colleagues, acquaintances asking you for knowledge that you gained with months of effort?
6 votes

These two sentences are the key to your question. “And now people just walk up to me, comment on how great the site is, and then want to know what specific software I have used to create my site. ...

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How to approach discussion with wife about a possible "emotional affair"
6 votes

You say this: So I started to hold my wife more, hug and kiss her. Gave her more attention. After a few weeks, she told me I was trying too hard. That I was suffocating her and not giving her ...

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How to tell a friend I won't pay them for a favor they did for me?
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There are a lot of answers here but none of them cut to the core of this issue: Is your friendship with her worth more or less than the $10 she is asking for? At the end of the day $10 is not a lot ...

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How can I stress to my brother the importance of saving when he relies on me as a safety net?
5 votes

Lots of answers here but I will be blunt: Your brother is not getting the message and when he says this: “I have you as my backup, aren’t you?” You need to respond firmly: “Look, you are a ...

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Attending the 9/11 Memorial next month - how to interact with families that lost loved ones?
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How can we interact with the families that lost loved ones on 9/11 without offending? I doubt you will have to actually worry about this, but if you are just calm, cool and know how to “hold space” ...

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How to decline a job offer from a previous employer, without burning bridges?
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You answered your own question when you said: I really love my current workplace and have no desire to go back. The sun rises. The sun sets. Seasons change. Jobs come and jobs go. Simply state: ...

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What is the proper etiquette with regards to reciprocating Thanksgiving dinner invitations?
2 votes

Thanksgiving is not a holiday where the invited guest is expected to reciprocate. Thanksgiving in the U.S. is simply a holiday where families of all kinds — direct family and otherwise — gathers to ...

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How to tell the secretary that some of their emails are not needed?
2 votes

Just tell them you are already getting the emails they are forwarding. First you say this: “I want to tell them that we already get the emails and there is no need for them to forward those ...

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Is there some interpersonal skill that relates to "Giving people something to react to?”
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“Is it true that we need to give something for people to react to?” No. Don’t worry about it. Always be true to yourself. It is not your job to say what people want to hear when you express your ...

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Is it rude to ask how much a new neighbour paid for their apartment?
1 votes

By simply saying “Hello!” to them each time you see them you are already ahead of the curve as far as neighborly friendliness goes. So don’t stress over the next steps. Let it just come naturally. ...

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