Euchris
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Moving away from Christian faith: how to retain relationships?
17 votes

I'm in your position too. It's not an easy one, to be caught between two extremes who think you're fraternizing with the enemy, and to question which one you belong to — if any. As a Christian whose ...

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When someone refuses to acknowledge they hurt you, what can you do to move past it?
9 votes

This is more of a psych answer than an IPS one, but for what it's worth: I disagree with the premise. Yes, it hurts not to have an apology or acknowledgement and it goes a long way to have one. But ...

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How to get an employee to think more independently?
6 votes

I think this is somewhat of a Workplace SE question, and this will be somewhat of a Workplace SE answer, but here it is for what it's worth. Aelis answered well from the employee's perspective. I'll ...

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How can I tell to my friend that her behavior is weird to me?
6 votes

The other answers seem good, but to add one more dimension: You're at a time of life when people tend to try out different behaviours ways of being, what psychologists call identity exploration. (This ...

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What would be a good way to live with daily events when some people or company treat you badly?
3 votes

I suggest a frame challenge, a change in assumptions. What if you give people the benefit of the doubt and take their actions in good faith, as much as you possibly can? Here's one approach. When you'...

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I'm a bibimbap heretic - can I eat my food the way I want without coming off as disrespectful?
3 votes

I know you have an answer already, but for anyone else who wants a simple one-off to try, here's a line that has worked for me in similar situations: [smiling] Thanks, but I like it this way. This ...

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Online conversation vs face to face interaction
3 votes

Here's a short annotated bibliography,* with the caveat that it represents a skim, cull, and summary of just a few dozen abstracts in fields I don't know much about. I offer it more as a series of ...

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How to respond to a friend who wants to share her poetry?
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2 votes

You could take St. Thomas More's tack in A Man for All Seasons: To me [your music] seemed delightful. ... I should in fairness add that my taste in music is reputedly deplorable. Not, of course, ...

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How do I tell the waiter that I want each course as soon as it's ready?
2 votes

I would be alright with choosing from the two provided options if I at least knew which one is actually the faster one. I asked my brother, who works in a restaurant, about those two options. He says ...

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How can I play the devil's advocate in politics without being attacked?
2 votes

I've had good results with just explicitly saying what I'm doing before asking a risqué question: Just to play devil's advocate... This lets them know that the next statement is not necessarily ...

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