BlackThorn
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How to approach an inevitable breakup after sudden death in partner's family?
101 votes

Let me offer my perspective as someone who was in a similar(ish) situation to your girlfriend. My father passed away when I was in a new relationship. This loss was life changing for me, and my ...

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Girlfriend won't let me pay for her. How can I approach the situation?
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75 votes

People of low financial means often take money issues much more seriously than those who have money. Take it from me; I grew up in a very low income household and accepting money from people, ...

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How do I prevent people from repeating to others everything I say to them?
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67 votes

Don't give them anything to talk about This is a critical IPS skill that, unfortunately, not everyone comes by naturally. Sometimes you have to really work for it, and it can take a lot of trial and ...

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How to handle people blocking your view and breaking the rules at the theater by not sitting in their assigned seats?
45 votes

You spoiled your own enjoyment and the enjoyment of the other family by creating conflict. The only sure way to keep everyone happy is to simply not engage. That gives you essentially 2 options: Go ...

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How to politely interrupt recruiters who keep cold-calling me during my work hours?
27 votes

An alternative solution that may work for you depending on your phone philosophies is don't answer the phone for unrecognized numbers. Set your answering machine to say something like, You have ...

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How to set boundaries to a younger sister who wants to live in my house?
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19 votes

Give her a goal for departure My in-laws are saints and open their house up to a lot of men who were recently released from prison. They let them stay for a while and help them find a job, participate ...

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How to politely inform a friend that you already have a "best friend"?
13 votes

I will assume that this non-best friend is still your friend and that you care about their feelings. If you want to retain your multiple friendships and for everyone to be happy, I advise you to drop ...

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Friend wants rare vinyl record collection back after 7 years
4 votes

No one likes it when someone reneges a gift, especially one of this magnitude. The magnitude, both of the cost in time, effort, and money to you as well as the cost of the records to him, is what ...

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Is it possible to talk politics while knowing little about politics?
2 votes

When I was a teenager, I had a similar problem with cars. A large number of my friends would talk about cars and I was pretty clueless. However, I didn't want to be excluded from the conversations ...

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How to help my girlfriend if she gets greatly depressed over small things?
2 votes

When I was dating the woman who is now my wife, she was about the most level emotioned person I know. But when she got a Nexplanon implant in her arm, it all changed. She is in control enough to ...

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How to deal with someone secretly taking pictures of you
1 votes

Know your local laws. If taking pictures in public without consent is legal, you should definitely not make a scene yourself. The internet is full of videos of people doing that, and you don't want to ...

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How to deal politely with people asking about your job but unable to understand it?
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I deal with this problem all the time. My job is very difficult to explain, even to people that are experienced in STEM subjects. Explaining what I do is tedious, both to me and them, and it doesn't ...

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