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It's my birthday! How do I tell people who don't know, who might want to know, without being awkward?
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For work, I bring in donuts for everyone and let them know I brought them in to celebrate my birthday. This is a pretty common gesture at many workplaces in the Midwest US. Alternatives are cupcakes,...

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How do I tell a co-worker that just because something is a hobby doesn't mean I want to do it for free?
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For me a bit of social engineering can go a long way in situations like this. Always be kind, polite, generous with your response. No thank you, but I appreciate you thinking of me. Said kindly ...

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How to respond when a friend mentions their financial issues?
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There is a very good chance your friend is just venting. In that case I find the most productive way to deal with it is to just agree that it sucks, that the situation is hard, that what is happening ...

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Is it rude to "sexile" someone the night before a test?
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Yes it would have been incredibly rude to insist that someone who is paying to have a place to stay, so that they have a constant controlled environment to rest, go find somewhere else the night ...

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How to handle a manipulative person who owes me money
11 votes

The first thing I would do is draw up a letter that states how much money is owed and what the terms of repayment are. Then get her to sign that letter with a witness. If she refuses to sign this, ...

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How can I explain why I declined someone's Facebook friend request without offending them?
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First you are over thinking this. They know you are not really friends, you are not in contact with them, and probably just sent you the friend request in case you wanted to reconnect. Chances are ...

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How do I tell certain customers they're not my number one priority?
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You never ever tell a customer that, unless you are wanting to lose them and their friends as your customers. And if you think because they are an internal customer you can not lose them you are ...

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When to open a gift / present given in person
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Generally take in the cues. Your coworker thanked you and set the card on your desk. This tells me that your coworker did not really expect you to open it up in front of them. That they kept ...

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How do I respond when someone is glad their loved one's suffering will end soon due to death?
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If there is anything I can do to help I am here for you. There is nothing you can say here that will make them feel better than knowing you have their back for this. They do not need a lecture from ...

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How to nicely tell someone I am not interested in a second date?
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One thing that too a very long time for me to grasp is that when you tell someone you dated that you just want to be friends, it is code for I do not want to date you but do not want to be mean. To ...

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How to tell a friend I can see through her swimming suit
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In my experience, if a woman wears a bathing suit a second time she knows what it does and how it looks. If she is concerned about how revealing it is there are options that will allow her to protect ...

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What is the right way to refer to someone with dark brown skin who is not African American?
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By Name, Role, or Title The correct way to refer to someone you work with is by name, or by their title if they have a distinct title. Any time you start describing someone by their appearance in ...

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How to ask a friend/roommate to do/to stop doing something? And how not to feel bad asking?
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The television show the Big Bang Theory makes light of Sheldon's obsessive adherence to a farcical roommate agreement. How ever such an agreement can help avoid this type of disagreement, or any ...

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Is it acceptable to call restaurant staff to take our picture?
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Is it acceptable for YOU to do it? No. It is inconsiderate of other patrons and may lead to the other patrons or yourself getting food at a lower than proper serving temperature. Is it ...

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What expressions or phrases can I use to close jewelry sales with female customers?
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Jewelry is a luxury. Its not like a car or a electronic where people buy them to get the latest and greatest, or need the functionality. People buy Jewelry to spoil themselves. For that reason ...

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Sketchy "friend" recently revealed true colors, is attending my wedding. Should I un-invite, and if so how?
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This is a no win situation. Here's the outcome I'm looking to achieve: My brother and Mary must not feel uncomfortable at my wedding My fiancée must not have any added stress for this ...

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How to avoid an awkward situation when someone just thoroughly slammed something you like?
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For me there are only 2 options here. Change the subject: So how about those {Insert common interest sports team here}? or something similar. This avoids the conflict and lets them know that you ...

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Why the closer the relationship is, the worse conflict we experience?
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Because, we are more invested in that relationship so any conflict in a close relationship is going to seem more serious to us than the identical conflict with someone with whom we have a very distant ...

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