Timeline for How to non-verbally communicate that I am listening?
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| Feb 23, 2018 at 9:46 | comment | added | Tinkeringbell♦ | @Harper, of course it's not bad if you're actually losing track of the conversation ;) But I get feedback like 'I could have sworn you weren't listening' when after a friend tell me of their troubles, I ask about a specific point. So, the problem here is really that people don't realize they have my undivided attention. I don't believe in lying and I would never fake my body language to make people think I was listening when I'm not, because that will lead to a load of other problems :) | |
| Feb 23, 2018 at 9:31 | answer | added | Alexander Aeons Torn | timeline score: 2 | |
| Feb 23, 2018 at 3:02 | comment | added | Pharap | @xehpuk Oddly enough the first thing that came to my mind was "occaisionally say 'naruhodo'", despite knowing full well that most English speakers wouldn't have a clue what it means. | |
| Feb 23, 2018 at 2:19 | comment | added | Harper - Reinstate Monica | Do they genuinely have your undivided attention? "How to make people realize it" and "how to make people think it" are actually different problems. to be clear, losing focus on what someone is saying, and accurately telegraphing that, is not necessarily a bad thing. | |
| Feb 23, 2018 at 1:16 | answer | added | user13148 | timeline score: 0 | |
| Feb 23, 2018 at 0:45 | comment | added | Zombo | vimeo.com/157447379 | |
| Feb 22, 2018 at 19:37 | comment | added | DonQuiKong | @Tinkeringbell then the grunting answer below probably covers it. Or just interrupt them. It's actually not even that rude most of the times. Necessary, rather. | |
| Feb 22, 2018 at 19:24 | comment | added | Tinkeringbell♦ | @DonQuiKong I try to maintain eye contact without staring (which I was also told is a good thing), so that means looking at them but also looking away/blinking at times. I think most of the body language that I'm aware of is already in there. | |
| Feb 22, 2018 at 19:19 | comment | added | DonQuiKong | Interesting question: if people find your polite non interruption impolite because they think you're not listening, wouldn't the polite thing to do be interrupt them? | |
| Feb 22, 2018 at 19:17 | comment | added | DonQuiKong | Do they get your full attention or do you stare at something or even them maybe? For me intermittently changing what I look at, looking pensative etc works. Could you describe your body language? | |
| Feb 22, 2018 at 16:01 | answer | added | Sophie Swett | timeline score: 34 | |
| Feb 22, 2018 at 13:47 | comment | added | xehpuk | Related, but from Japanese culture: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aizuchi | |
| Feb 22, 2018 at 13:11 | answer | added | HugoBDesigner | timeline score: 14 | |
| Feb 22, 2018 at 12:57 | answer | added | kscherrer | timeline score: 2 | |
| Feb 22, 2018 at 10:51 | history | edited | Tinkeringbell♦ | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Feb 22, 2018 at 10:50 | comment | added | Tinkeringbell♦ | I try avoiding interrupting the conversation at any cost, so no sounds. I do nod if people ask a sort of rhetorical question to encourage them to go on. I think the posture depends on who I'm talking with and when, e.g. me and my mom can have long conversations while we're both slouching on a couch... but in the office I tend to sit up straight at my desk anyway, a good posture when working is important. | |
| Feb 22, 2018 at 10:49 | answer | added | A J♦ | timeline score: 5 | |
| Feb 22, 2018 at 10:47 | comment | added | AK_is_curious | Hard to say without seeing you 'in action'. When people go on these 'longer talking periods' do you the classic nodding, "mhm", "yes"? What's your body posture? Do you just slack around or are you in an active, engaging posture? | |
| Feb 22, 2018 at 10:35 | history | asked | Tinkeringbell♦ | CC BY-SA 3.0 |