Timeline for How to handle my girlfriend's parents' attitude to asking her for money?
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| Mar 14, 2018 at 2:44 | comment | added | kleineg | "we'd be in so much debt by the time our working life began we'd never pay it off!" ....so, student loans huh? | |
| Mar 12, 2018 at 14:01 | history | edited | Astralbee | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
added some suggested wording because some people think every answer on IPS involves telling someone exactly what to say and I'm just trying to keep them happy.
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| Mar 12, 2018 at 13:55 | comment | added | Astralbee | @AndreiROM If the OP was the daughter saying her parents were exploitative then I'd take it at face value, but I don't think we can be dogmatic about that when helping someone to understand someone else's family culture. On this occasion I haven't given suggesting wording for the conversation for the same reason - I'd be telling the OP what to tell his girlfriend to say to her parents. Too many filters. Instead I've clearly stated how to make way for a fair comparison (tell them she may move out) and what things to consider when agreeing what to pay, and what it covers (the boundaries). | |
| Mar 12, 2018 at 13:08 | comment | added | AndreiROM | Decent suggestions, although unlikely to work. It sounds as of the parents are exploitative, & any suggestion that they stand to be cut off will likely not go over well. In other words, your answer might work well when discussing the situation with reasonable people, however these folks don't sound particularly fair. You also don't address how this conversation could, or should be brought about, or what to do if it falls through. That's pretty critical, as the OP asks how to set boundaries. Suggesting that they don't do certain things for her makes sense, but does not set boundaries. | |
| Mar 12, 2018 at 12:51 | comment | added | A.Danzi | Just for the record, her living alone would be more expensive, her living with me would be less expensive.. plus, she knows she's spendig her money only for her ( and me ofc, but she does want to do that ). | |
| Mar 12, 2018 at 12:24 | history | edited | Astralbee | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Mar 12, 2018 at 11:39 | history | answered | Astralbee | CC BY-SA 3.0 |