Timeline for How to get out of being a free taxi for your Mam?
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| Mar 16, 2018 at 14:27 | comment | added | user9837 | @AndreiROM Worth bearing in mind that 'cultural standards' may be different in Tyne and Wear than they are in Ontario... and indeed within different communities in either place. | |
| Mar 16, 2018 at 14:24 | comment | added | motosubatsu | @AndreiROM From what the OP said: 'if I'm not busy' I didn't get the impression that it's the case that he's being asked to 'drop anything', I absolutely agree that there should be parent/child boundaries, especially at the point where the child is transitioning into adulthood. I just don't happen to think that ~100 miles of lifts a month is crossing those boundaries. | |
| Mar 16, 2018 at 14:07 | comment | added | AndreiROM | A lot of judgement, but not any useful suggestions, especially given the fact that the OP is actually paying rent. There must exist boundaries even between parents and children. Having the OP drop anything he might be planning or doing, and drive his mother around is unreasonable by our cultural standards. Even if he wasn't paying rent, it's still selfish of his mother to abuse of his time and resources in this fashion - he's young, and only just starting his life. To him those resources are much more important than someone who's had decades to set her own life up. | |
| Mar 16, 2018 at 13:57 | comment | added | motosubatsu | @paparazzo I suppose the way I think about it is that he isn't being a "free" taxi, he's merely getting "paid" for it in other ways such as the cheap board etc. | |
| Mar 16, 2018 at 13:49 | comment | added | paparazzo | So you think he should not charge. Right or wrong the stated IPS question is how to get out of being a free taxi. | |
| Mar 16, 2018 at 12:52 | history | edited | motosubatsu | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Mar 16, 2018 at 12:50 | comment | added | motosubatsu | @Twyxz Honestly without wanting to get into whatever the full financial dynamics are between your parents I think you just need to consider this additional petrol cost (which is going to be minimal) as if i were just a slight increase in the board cost because believe me you are still going to be coming out "ahead" | |
| Mar 16, 2018 at 12:47 | comment | added | motosubatsu | @Twyxz £500 a month for board is very cheap compared to what you'd pay anywhere else | |
| Mar 16, 2018 at 12:47 | comment | added | Twyxz | My Dad, my Mam refused to help me in any way as its meant to be a learning experience but I've now learnt and paying her back for nothing. On top of this my Dad pays for the entire house and my Mam takes the board? | |
| Mar 16, 2018 at 12:45 | comment | added | motosubatsu | @Twyxz And before you were earning who paid for that public transport? | |
| Mar 16, 2018 at 12:44 | comment | added | Twyxz | 1. I've never been given a lift from my parents unless they wanted me to be somewhere I didn't. I was forced to get public transport or not go. 2. I pay over 500 a month for board. 3. I've been earning since I was 14 doing jobs on the street. 4. My Mam can drive but she no longer has a car because she couldn't afford it (Which she should understand the costs) | |
| Mar 16, 2018 at 12:39 | history | answered | motosubatsu | CC BY-SA 3.0 |