Timeline for Right way to ask a colleague not to slam the door
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| May 27, 2018 at 9:16 | comment | added | 11684 | An unpersonal sign (“please close door silently”) would be much better as a first step. (Maybe add that to the answer?) My issue is not primarily with the out of the blue, but with the question; I would find simply stating that the loud sound of the door is disruptive to the speaker much better than letting the door slammer guess the effects of his actions on his coworkers (something he has not been able to do – he might truthfully answer “no”). I added “out of the blue” because such questions might be appropriate after it has been discussed at length and the coworker doesn’t adapt. | |
| May 27, 2018 at 5:50 | comment | added | puck | @11684 If you can still hear the door vibrating the question might not be out of the blue :-) You can't let all things pass only because discussing it could be a little bit intervening. This strongly depends on how to say it. A simple question normally doesn't hurt. But I think the idea of placing a sign on the door definitely is a better start. It provides a reason to start talking about the door if the colleague still keeps slamming it. | |
| May 26, 2018 at 17:11 | comment | added | 11684 | If I entered a room and someone asked me out of the blue whether I thought I hadn’t slammed the door too hard I would consider that very condescending and passive-aggressive. (Especially considering in the mind of this coworker it has never been a problem before.) Context and tone of course make a large difference, but I’m having a hard time imagining them so that this doesn’t come off as rude. | |
| May 25, 2018 at 12:15 | history | answered | puck | CC BY-SA 4.0 |