Timeline for How can I make peace with my younger brother
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| Oct 23, 2018 at 14:41 | comment | added | Brian H. | @PrashinJeevaganth you may not have said those words to your brother, but the fact that you used that sentence to describe him shows what you truly think of him. This, combined with what seems to be an attitude focussed on "fixing" him will definitely get to him even if you think it doesn't. I find this case interesting because it is very similar to malfunctioning romantic relationships, I think you could also look up some questions about solving a romantic partner's problems being perceived negatively. | |
| Oct 17, 2018 at 13:32 | history | edited | Benjamin Gruenbaum | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Oct 17, 2018 at 13:31 | comment | added | Benjamin Gruenbaum | @PrashinJeevaganth I will clarify, I did not think that you have told it to him directly. It has been my experience working with 17 year old programmers for years that they have a very good sense of knowing who believes in them and it's possible your brother feels you don't believe he is hard working (or worse - does not believe himself to be capable of being a hard working person). That's why I suggested what I did - it might be a miss. Thanks for the comment I will clarify my answer :) | |
| Oct 17, 2018 at 13:29 | comment | added | Prashin Jeevaganth | No what I mean is I totally agree with your suggestions, but the undermining trust part seems like you interpreted it like I told him those words explicitly and hence I gave him the impression to think that I think he's lazy. Even if he indeed is, I didn't say those to him at all, but because I'm writing this post to paint a context, how can I not write it down. | |
| Oct 17, 2018 at 13:20 | comment | added | Benjamin Gruenbaum | @PrashinJeevaganth the idea isn't to gather evidence or to judge his level of laziness - the idea is to be there for him unconditionally and support him as he makes better life decisions. | |
| Oct 17, 2018 at 13:15 | comment | added | Prashin Jeevaganth | Well like I said, it will contain some form of bias definitely and perhaps I didn't provide actual evidence to prove that laziness. I definitely didn't say those words in front of him, but for the purpose of writing the context for this post, I had to do it. I have already updated the evidence anyway. | |
| Oct 17, 2018 at 12:59 | history | answered | Benjamin Gruenbaum | CC BY-SA 4.0 |