Timeline for How to tell a stranger that the way I wish to educate my child is none of his/her business?
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| Mar 4, 2019 at 17:30 | comment | added | Kate Gregory | both "could be" and "I will" even softened by "maybe" are in essence "good point" or agreeing. Leading with that feels polite - and is, to the stranger. What does it say to your child though? That you're doing something you know might not be best? And anyway, whether you agree and then add clarifications or disagree and explain why, you're still tacitly giving this complete stranger a vote on how you do this, giving weight to their unsolicited opinion. If they told you "you don't have the right shape of neck to wear that scarf" you wouldn't give them the time of day, right? Same for this. | |
| Mar 4, 2019 at 15:28 | comment | added | Lifelong Scholar | Wonder where'd you read the 'Good point' (or even 'bad point' for that matter) in my answer, let me reiterate the essence of the answer is to keep the interactions with the strangers short while focusing more on the child. | |
| Mar 4, 2019 at 15:18 | comment | added | Lifelong Scholar | I never suggested agreeing or disagreeing with the stranger | |
| Mar 3, 2019 at 19:58 | comment | added | Kate Gregory | while this no doubt seems reasonable to you, it's my experience that when you say "good point, but [reasons]" the person continues, sometimes telling you more firmly that you're wrong or rebutting your reasons or bringing other options into play. If you like what you're doing and didn't intend to get advice from random unqualified strangers, telling them why you're right does not, in general, cause the advice-giving to stop. It actually intensifies it. | |
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| Mar 3, 2019 at 19:14 | history | answered | Lifelong Scholar | CC BY-SA 4.0 |