After reading a related questiona related question, I am rethinking about various discussion/meeting where I, and most other leaders/moderators in the discussion/meeting, call out someone for being quiet and not voicing their opinion.
The meetings were either casual or formal 10, and in both cases, I call them because I don't want them to feel left out, and I value the opinions of everyone. The casual meetings usually don't have a specific goal (hence just a discussion), but more formal ones usually have specific goals ("Where will we go on the next holiday?" "What will we do for our charity project?"). This excludes work meetings. All people know each other and most are friends, and usually, have only 8-13 persons.
Usually, we go in a circle and start from a random person (or the person next to the leader), then take turns in voicing opinions. Some usually skip (or just agree with another person), or are skipped because they take a long time to say something. After everyone has taken their turn, we get back to those that were skipped and ask for their opinion.
However, there might be several questions/agendas, and if the same persons keep quiet when it's their turn, we usually called them
Hey, Alice, why you so quiet. What do you think about this?
A bit literal translation, but the first part is a common phrase in Indonesian
In all cases, the person is a bit surprised, and usually either skip or giving a brief opinion or agree with someone's else opinion. (It may be worthwhile to mention some of them were not paying attention). That is always fine, and we seldom press for their opinion after this another line.
Come on, what do you think about this?
And drop it and progress to next person.
Although we would do this to all participants (which most are shy), there are some people that more often got pointed out (because they more often keep quiet).
Is it alright to call people out on a meeting/discussion when they are being quiet?
