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##Show them that you have nothing to hide.

##The conversation itself

Parents: Why close your door?

 

You: I want some privacy.

 

Parents: You are doing something bad that you want to hide.

You: I know that what I'm doing looks suspicious, and I understand your concerns.

 

Parents: It looks incredibly suspicious.

 

You: Well, here's what I'm doing. There this site called Stack Exchange. It's a question and answer site that covers a range of different topics. By participating, I'm helping people around the world.

 

[Continue conversation as you wish.]

Show them that you have nothing to hide.

The conversation itself

Parents: Why close your door?

You: I want some privacy.

Parents: You are doing something bad that you want to hide.

You: I know that what I'm doing looks suspicious, and I understand your concerns.

Parents: It looks incredibly suspicious.

You: Well, here's what I'm doing. There this site called Stack Exchange. It's a question and answer site that covers a range of different topics. By participating, I'm helping people around the world.

[Continue conversation as you wish.]

There is one other thing I forgot: You're 14.

I know you've probably heard this all before, but you're in a phase where you're growing up. At the same time, you're still your parents' son; they are still (legally and morally) responsible for your safety and well-being. To fully care for you and guide you down the weird and challenging road of life, they do need to know what you're doing most of the time.

You're a young adult, not a full adult, and you're working your way towards independence. That doesn't mean that you can hide everything from them, and it doesn't mean that they get to know everything you're doing. There's a middle ground to be struck, and everyone in the situation has to understand that. For the sake of resolving this issue and future ones, I hope you'll bear this in mind.

This sounds a bit stilted, but you get the idea. You're building back the trust you might have lost.

As NVZ pointed out, there's still the possibility of your parents further pushing the issue, i.e. saying "Why were you closing the door if you're doing something helpful?"

At this point, talking about privacy is a much better tactic. Bringing it up early in the discussion seems like a shield; it doesn't give that great a reason for you to have essentially hidden from your parents. They had no good reason to believe that you weren't doing something wrong, and that's probably why things have gone as poorly as they have.

However, you've now demonstrated what you've been doing, and talking about privacy no longer seems like just an excuse. It's a very reasonable justification, and I think they'll be more receptive to it.