Timeline for How do I say no to a stranger asking to borrow my bicycle for a minute?
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| Aug 29, 2017 at 19:33 | vote | accept | Mithical | ||
| Aug 28, 2017 at 13:27 | comment | added | NVZ | @gerrit I didn't mean to go technical with "cannot". I only meant it casually, for example, "Can I come in?" is a commonly used question in place of "May I come in?". | |
| Aug 28, 2017 at 13:23 | comment | added | gerrit | I tend to find it a bit dishonest when people say I cannot when clearly they could, they just don't want to (and for a good reason). | |
| Aug 28, 2017 at 12:36 | history | edited | NVZ | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Aug 28, 2017 at 12:06 | comment | added | NVZ | @Kapep Well, those are good suggestions, but not necessarily in the same vein as my answer. Those are good candidates for a separate answer. I hope you post an answer. :) | |
| Aug 28, 2017 at 11:59 | comment | added | kapex | @NVZ I guess it's just the wording that threw me off a bit. I think "cannot give it to you" could be taken personal by some people. I would word it like "Sorry, I only lend it to very close friends" (which is basically the same meaning but I think less offending) or even better make a more general statement like "I generally don't like lending my bike", "This bike is very dear to me, I'd rather not give it away and want to keep sight of it." | |
| Aug 28, 2017 at 11:43 | comment | added | Vylix | @Kapep If you just met a total stranger, would you trust him to borrow your car? No? The example is far better in explaining that than just saying "No, I don't know you". | |
| Aug 28, 2017 at 11:40 | comment | added | NVZ | @Kapep Interesting. What would you recommend instead? :) | |
| Aug 28, 2017 at 11:39 | comment | added | kapex | I don't see how implying that you don't trust the person (yet) is improving the situation. | |
| Aug 28, 2017 at 10:40 | comment | added | Vylix | That example is just gold! Especially when you casually mention "We just met". Reasonable person should understand this as a perfectly valid reason, and won't take it personal. | |
| Aug 28, 2017 at 10:05 | history | edited | NVZ | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Aug 28, 2017 at 9:47 | history | answered | NVZ | CC BY-SA 3.0 |