Timeline for Is it appropriate to tell someone of the opposite gender "your fly is down"?
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| Jun 18, 2020 at 8:27 | history | edited | CommunityBot |
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| Oct 21, 2017 at 18:03 | comment | added | thagomizer | I think simply leaning in with a wink and "The gates are open, but the beast is sleeping" works on both sides of the Atlantic. | |
| Sep 10, 2017 at 9:00 | comment | added | user3114 | @Catija do you still believe this answer is 60% irrelevant to your question, despite the edits and the extra explanation? | |
| Sep 8, 2017 at 22:45 | history | edited | user3114 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Sep 8, 2017 at 7:36 | history | edited | user3114 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Sep 8, 2017 at 7:32 | comment | added | user3114 | @Hamlet I have edited my answer accordingly. The single anecdote is indeed relevant and speaking as a woman, I can fully sympathise with the OP who is also a woman. In fact, the question title says: "Is it appropriate to tell someone of the opposite gender “your fly is down”?" I hope the improvements I made on the answer have helped to clear up your earlier reservations and that of the OP as well. | |
| Sep 8, 2017 at 7:27 | history | edited | user3114 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Sep 6, 2017 at 19:25 | comment | added | user3114 | @Hamlet which would you prefer in a formal setting? Someone telling you face to face that your fly is down when others might eavesdrop, or someone giving you a nod and discreetly looking at your trousers? | |
| Sep 6, 2017 at 19:22 | comment | added | user288 | @Mari-LouA that makes no sense. There is no tacit and silent agreement: one person knows that the other person's fly is down, the other person doesn't. Hinting or glancing might work, but most of the time it doesn't. | |
| Sep 6, 2017 at 19:21 | comment | added | user3114 | @Hamlet Not everyone is good at understanding facial clues but I would hypothesize that the majority of men, both in the US and in the UK would understand. My answer relies on diplomacy, a tacit and silent agreement between the observer and the potentially embarrassed gentleman. | |
| Sep 6, 2017 at 19:15 | comment | added | user288 | "Next time, a polite harrumph and a pointed fleeting glance at the gentlemen's buckle area should suffice. The sooner the better. Done with a smile is always nicer too." As someone who lives in the USA, I would find it extremely bizarre if someone tried to communicate that my zipper was unzipped with a "harrumph". And in my experience, pointed glances never work, because it's actually someone difficult to tell what exactly people are looking at from their facial expression. | |
| Sep 6, 2017 at 17:15 | comment | added | user3114 | @Catija because men forgetting to fasten their pants is pretty much universal? It also happens in Italy too, you know. As for my answer, clearing one's throat is never done in the US? And what difference does it make whether I write "flies" or "fly"? It's still a zip/zipper. | |
| Sep 6, 2017 at 15:48 | comment | added | Catija | The question is marked clearly as being for the US, not the UK, so I'm not sure why 60% of your answer is defending something that's used in the UK but not in the US. | |
| Sep 6, 2017 at 7:45 | history | edited | user3114 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Sep 6, 2017 at 6:38 | history | answered | user3114 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |