Timeline for How can I politely tell my friends I can't afford to order takeout?
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| Aug 3, 2021 at 9:41 | comment | added | breversa | The real take-away (pun intended :P ) in this answer is that your friends value your companionship/presence more than their money, and they willingly trade the latter for the former. Refusing their offer is then akin to refusing them your presence. I’ve done the same myself when going out with friends who couldn’t afford it : I offered to cover up their entry fee/food/drinks, because I valued spending time with them more than using my money for myself. | |
| Oct 18, 2017 at 9:08 | comment | added | WayneEra | in addition to this great answer, i would really suggest explaining your friends your situation and being completely honest. tell them that you currently don't have the money to order food that often, and tell them that you appreciate them paying for your food but that you don't feel good about it if it falls out of balance. it's also good to make jokes about your own (bad) situation, then they know that you don't like the way it is, but they will understand better that you can't change it right now. | |
| Sep 16, 2017 at 12:45 | vote | accept | Tycho's Nose | ||
| Sep 16, 2017 at 11:18 | comment | added | Tycho's Nose | @AnneDaunted I didn't think about it this way. I have given them heirloom seeds I brought from the US and I have told the girl I can make her some homemade beauty products. Thank you! | |
| Sep 16, 2017 at 6:05 | comment | added | Anne Daunted GoFundMonica | I like this advise! Since they know your situation, @Tycho'sNose, the quid pro quo could even go beyond food stuff. It's not like you are offering them nothing in return, when they order food for you, too, since you are hosting them for quite some time. Perhaps there are other things (that cost no or not much money, but rather time/effort) you could suggest in return? | |
| Sep 15, 2017 at 18:47 | history | edited | user3114 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Sep 15, 2017 at 18:36 | comment | added | user3114 | @OldPadawan :-) My 92-year-old aunt still freezes her homemade ravioli which she makes in industrial quantities. Freezing pasta (ribbon, flat, lasagne) is also an art, you need to make sure it's not too fresh before freezing. | |
| Sep 15, 2017 at 18:33 | comment | added | OldPadawan | Wish I could have cut the UV to 0.5 because you talked about freezing pasta... shame on you :)) but good point about the friends who probably understood. | |
| Sep 15, 2017 at 18:30 | comment | added | user3114 | @Tycho'sNose whatever makes you feel more comfortable. You're not obliged to always accept an invite, sometimes you can say "Bob and I just need a quiet night in." and skip a week. | |
| Sep 15, 2017 at 18:27 | comment | added | Tycho's Nose | Thanks for your answer. Perhaps it's a good idea to tell them in advance that they are invited for dinner. Of course, there will still be those times when they will want to order food but again perhaps I could just "dodge" this by inviting them for dinner more often? | |
| Sep 15, 2017 at 18:21 | history | answered | user3114 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |