Timeline for How can I deal diplomatically with a feminist neighbor who continuously delivers political speeches in private?
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| Oct 4, 2017 at 18:43 | comment | added | Monty Harder | Excellent advice. I'd like to amplify one point. The very first time you use this, do the quick explanation as to why you're leaving. But only do it that once. Next time, simply get up and say your good-byes without any explicit acknowledgement whatsoever of what Jane is doing. Don't even give her that satisfaction. Act as if she is not even in the room. | |
| Oct 3, 2017 at 15:20 | comment | added | Agent_L | @WGroleau If that's the choice Mother makes, OP must respect it. | |
| Oct 3, 2017 at 11:00 | comment | added | WGroleau | Quite possible that this approach might cause Mother to decide she'd rather have Jane D. be leaving and son staying. | |
| Oct 2, 2017 at 21:26 | comment | added | can-ned_food | Of course, there is a difference between the Chaotic Evil and the Chaotic Neutral or the Chaotic Good button-pusher. Let's say that you believe that rape and murder are wrong, but you live in a society where the mores not only accept but condone such things. You could be driven to stir up conflict because the only alternative is to let things be as they are. Attempting to engage in rational discussion only aggravates your sense of injustice when the other parties don't care. The problem comes from not distinguishing yourself enough. | |
| Oct 2, 2017 at 18:56 | comment | added | English Student | Very useful answer that presents a fresh perspective: even if not all may agree with your point of view I have already stated here myself that Jane D just loves a forceful argument; so I upvote for this insightful advice: "I would say the same could apply to whether you agree or disagree. This person is what we call a button-pusher - they love and thrive off of conflict (...) exit the situation and state why (...) Leave. The Attacker will try one last attempt to draw a conflict, but they lose. Without a conflict present anymore, the attacker loses his or her reward" Thanks a lot @FalseHooHa! | |
| Oct 2, 2017 at 18:48 | history | answered | FalseHooHa | CC BY-SA 3.0 |