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Jane D: you men are all alike. A man can never help a woman.

All, never, always, are absolute universal quantifiers according to David Burns M.D.

They're thought distortions. If she thinks this way to herself, no wonder, she feels the way she feels.

If she doesn't respond to that argument, just get some big headphones, wear them and listen to music/podcasts when she's around.

Or use the fog and broken record method from Manuel J. Smith.

If she upsets your mother, there is really nothing you can do about that. Your mother makes her own decisions about who she talks to. But I suspect that if you don't let her upset you, your mother won't be as upset either.

Jane D: you men are all alike. A man can never help a woman.

All, never, always, are absolute universal quantifiers according to David Burns M.D.

They're thought distortions. If she thinks this way to herself, no wonder, she feels the way she feels.

If she doesn't respond to that argument, get some big headphones, wear them and listen to music/podcasts, or use the fog and broken record method from Manuel J. Smith.

Or when Jane comes to dinner, offer your mom to cook dinner, serve dinner, clear the dishes, and wash the dishes for that night. This will keep you busy and will minimize the amount of time you have to spend listening to her. And if you have a cook/maid, you can always give that person the paid night off.

If she still upsets your mother, there is really nothing else you can do about that. Your mother makes her own decisions about who she talks to. But I suspect that if you don't let Jane upset you, your mother won't be nearly as upset by her either.

Jane D: you men are all alike. A man can never help a woman.

All, never, always, are absolute universal quantifiers according to David Burns M.D.

They're thought distortions. If she thinks this way to herself, no wonder, she feels the way she feels.

If she doesn't respond to that argument, just get some big Bluetooth headphones, wear them and listen to music/podcasts when she's around.

Or use the fog and broken record method from Manuel J. Smith.

If she upsets your mother, there is really nothing you can do about that. Your mother makes her own decisions about who she talks to. But I suspect that if you don't let her upset you, your mother won't be as upset either.

Jane D: you men are all alike. A man can never help a woman.

All, never, always, are absolute universal quantifiers according to David Burns M.D.

They're thought distortions. If she thinks this way to herself, no wonder, she feels the way she feels.

If she doesn't respond to that argument, just get some big headphones, wear them and listen to music/podcasts when she's around.

Or use the fog and broken record method from Manuel J. Smith.

If she upsets your mother, there is really nothing you can do about that. Your mother makes her own decisions about who she talks to. But I suspect that if you don't let her upset you, your mother won't be as upset either.

Jane D: you men are all alike. A man can never help a woman.

All, never, always, are absolute universal quantifiers.

They're thought distortions. If she thinks this way to herself, no wonder, she feels the way she feels.

If she doesn't respond to that argument, just get some big Bluetooth headphones, wear them and listen to music/podcasts when she's around.

If she upsets your mother, there is really nothing you can do about that. Your mother makes her own decisions about who she talks to. But I suspect that if you don't let her upset you, your mother won't be as upset either.

I know that this is India, and that living with one's parents is common over there, but you should really try to get a job (if you don't have one already) and get your own place. Having a private space of your own, even if it's for a few hours a day, can be invaluable for your own peace of mind.

Jane D: you men are all alike. A man can never help a woman.

All, never, always, are absolute universal quantifiers according to David Burns M.D.

They're thought distortions. If she thinks this way to herself, no wonder, she feels the way she feels.

If she doesn't respond to that argument, just get some big Bluetooth headphones, wear them and listen to music/podcasts when she's around.

Or use the fog and broken record method from Manuel J. Smith.

If she upsets your mother, there is really nothing you can do about that. Your mother makes her own decisions about who she talks to. But I suspect that if you don't let her upset you, your mother won't be as upset either.