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Moving in with a girlfriend/boyfriend is like marriage.

If you move in with your girlfriend because of convenience and/or because you don't feel comfortable breaking up with her right now. Those actions will become infinitely more difficult to do once you've been sharing the same residence for a while.

And this is just on the emotional level, there are also legal ramifications to consider.

For instance, evicting a co-tenant (a former girlfriend/boyfriend) who doesn't pay rent (and who has never paid any rent) may almost be impossible (even if you moved out yourself, you may still be liable for the rent to the landlord).

And there is also the concept of de factor relationship in Australia (in the UK and the US, we call it common law marriage). The idea is that you may be considered legally married to that person after having spent a certain amount of time living with her.

In Australia the term de facto relationship is often used to refer to relationships between any two persons who are not married, but are effectively living in certain domestic circumstances.

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But it could be worse than that, if she needs a partner visa to enter Australia (which I have no idea if this is the case because you didn't say one way or another), you may both be required to prove/swear to the fact that you've both been in a de facto relationship for a while now.

Again, please both realize what it means to take this seemingly innocuous step of traveling and moving in together.

Understand also that you will be uprooting this girl from her own local environment. If she travels and moves in with you so far away from her home, she will have no local family, no local friends, no job, and no support network of any kind, except for you.

Are you ready for that responsibility? What will you do if she becomes depressed? What will you do if she wants to fill in that void by having a baby? Will you even have time to be with her? And if she's not working now at her location because someone is supporting her, don't think that she will start working after the move if you or her parents are still supporting her after the move.

Even if you pay for her trip and subsidize a huge part of her expenses, it may make more sense that you don't both move into the same residence and that you only get yourself a small studio/a shared room for yourself.

And even if you move in with her, it may make more sense to have her follow you three months, or even six months later.

Now based on your username, I'm guessing that you're a computer programmer. Also, since your girlfriend is not working, I'm assuming that her job prospects are limited even if she does find a job.

Having her move in her own shared place under her own name (not yours) would be one way to make her independent from you and to motivate her to find an actual job. Also, sharing a place with roommates would teach her how to get along with roommates, which is a valuable skill to have if she doesn't have it already, and it would force her to be semi-social with her roommates, instead of only relying for companionship on you (since I assume you'll pretty busy once you start working, at least at the beginning).

Moving in with a girlfriend/boyfriend is like marriage.

If you move in with your girlfriend because of convenience and/or because you don't feel comfortable breaking up with her right now. Those actions will become infinitely more difficult to do once you've been sharing the same residence for a while.

And this is just on the emotional level, there are also legal ramifications to consider.

For instance, evicting a co-tenant (a former girlfriend/boyfriend) who doesn't pay rent (and who has never paid any rent) may almost be impossible (even if you moved out yourself, you may still be liable for the rent to the landlord).

And there is also the concept of de factor relationship in Australia (in the UK and the US, we call it common law marriage). The idea is that you may be considered legally married to that person after having spent a certain amount of time living with her.

In Australia the term de facto relationship is often used to refer to relationships between any two persons who are not married, but are effectively living in certain domestic circumstances.

source

But it could be worse than that, if she needs a partner visa to enter Australia (which I have no idea if this is the case because you didn't say one way or another), you may both be required to prove/swear to the fact that you've both been in a de facto relationship for a while now.

Again, please both realize what it means to take this seemingly innocuous step of traveling and moving in together.

Understand also that you will be uprooting this girl from her own local environment. If she travels and moves in with you so far away from her home, she will have no local family, no local friends, no job, and no support network of any kind, except for you.

Are you ready for that responsibility? What will you do if she becomes depressed? What will you do if she wants to fill in that void by having a baby? Will you even have time to be with her? And if she's not working now at her location because someone is supporting her, don't think that she will start working after the move if you or her parents are still supporting her after the move.

Even if you pay for her trip and subsidize a huge part of her expenses, it may make more sense that you don't both move into the same residence and that you only get yourself a small studio/a shared room for yourself.

And even if you move in with her, it may be better to have her follow you three months, or even six months later.

Now based on your username, I'm guessing that you're a computer programmer. Also, since your girlfriend is not working, I'm assuming that her job prospects are limited even if she does find a job.

Having her move in her own shared place under her own name (not yours) would be one way to make her independent from you and to motivate her to find an actual job. Also, sharing a place with roommates would teach her how to get along with roommates, which is a valuable skill to have if she doesn't have it already, and it would force her to be semi-social with her roommates, instead of only relying for companionship on you (since I assume you'll pretty busy once you start working, at least at the beginning).

Moving in with a girlfriend/boyfriend is like marriage.

If you move in with your girlfriend because of convenience and/or because you don't feel comfortable breaking up with her right now. Those actions will become infinitely more difficult to do once you've been sharing the same residence for a while.

And this is just on the emotional level, there are also legal ramifications to consider.

For instance, evicting a co-tenant (a former girlfriend/boyfriend) who doesn't pay rent (and who has never paid any rent) may almost be impossible (even if you moved out yourself, you may still be liable for the rent to the landlord).

And there is also the concept of de factor relationship in Australia (in the UK and the US, we call it common law marriage). The idea is that you may be considered legally married to that person after having spent a certain amount of time living with her.

In Australia the term de facto relationship is often used to refer to relationships between any two persons who are not married, but are effectively living in certain domestic circumstances.

source

But it could be even worse than that, if she needs a partner visa to enter Australia (which I have no idea if this is the case because you didn't say one way or another), you may both be required to prove/swear to the fact that you've both been in a de facto relationship for a while now.

Again, please both realize what it means to take this seemingly innocuous step of traveling and moving in together.

Understand also that you will be uprooting this girl from her own local environment. If she travels and moves in with you so far away from her home, she will have no local family, no local friends, no job, and no support network of any kind, except for you.

Are you ready for that responsibility? What will you do if she becomes depressed? What will you do if she wants to fill in that void by having a baby? Will you even have time to be with her? And if she's not working now at her location because someone is supporting her, don't think that she will start working after the move if you or her parents are still supporting her after the move.

Even if you pay for her trip and subsidize a huge part of her expenses, it may make more sense that you don't both move into the same residence and that you only get yourself a small studio/a shared room for yourself.

And even if you move in with her, it may make more sense to have her follow you three months, or even six months later.

Now based on your username, I'm guessing that you're a computer programmer. Also, since your girlfriend is not working, I'm assuming that her job prospects are limited even if she does find a job.

Having her move in her own shared place under her own name (not yours) would be one way to make her independent from you and to motivate her to find an actual job. Also, sharing a place with roommates would teach her how to get along with roommates, which is a valuable skill to have if she doesn't have it already, and it would force her to be semi-social with her roommates, instead of only relying for companionship on you (since I assume you'll pretty busy once you start working, at least at the beginning).

Moving in with a girlfriend/boyfriend is like marriage.

If you move in with your girlfriend because of convenience and/or because you don't feel comfortable breaking up with her right now. Those actions will become infinitely more difficult to do once you've been sharing the same residence for a while.

And this is just on the emotional level, there are also legal ramifications to consider.

For instance, evicting a co-tenant (a former girlfriend/boyfriend) who doesn't pay rent (and who has never paid any rent) may almost be impossible (even if you moved out yourself, you may still be liable for the rent to the landlord).

And there is also the concept of de factor relationship in Australia (in the UK and the US, we call it common law marriage). The idea is that you may be considered legally married to that person after having spent a certain amount of time living with her.

In Australia the term de facto relationship is often used to refer to relationships between any two persons who are not married, but are effectively living in certain domestic circumstances.

source

But it could be worse than that, if she needs a partner visa to enter Australia (which I have no idea if this is the case because you didn't say one way or another), you may both be required to prove/swear to the fact that you've both been in a de facto relationship for a while now.

Again, please both realize what it means to take this seemingly innocuous step of traveling and moving in together.

Understand also that you will be uprooting this girl from her own local environment. If she travels and moves in with you so far away from her home, she will have no local family, no local friends, no job, and no support network of any kind, except for you.

Are you ready for that responsibility? What will you do if she becomes depressed? What will you do if she wants to fill in that void by having a baby? Will you even have time to be with her? And if she's not working now at her location because someone is supporting her, don't think that she will start working after the move if you or her parents are still supporting her after the move.

Even if you pay for her trip and subsidize a huge part of her expenses, it may make more sense that you don't both move into the same residence and that you only get yourself a small studio/a shared room for yourself.

And even if you move in with her, it may make more sense to have her follow you three months, or even six months later.

Now based on your username, I'm guessing that you're a computer programmer. Also, since your girlfriend is not working, I'm assuming that her job prospects are limited even if she does find a job.

Having her move in her own shared place under her own name (not yours) would be one way to make her independent from you and to motivate her to find an actual job. Also, sharing a place with roommates would teach her how to get along with roommates, which is a valuable skill to have if she doesn't have it already, and it would force her to be semi-social with her roommates, instead of only relying for companionship on you (since I assume you'll pretty busy once you start working, at least at the beginning).

Moving in with a girlfriend/boyfriend is like marriage.

If you move in with your girlfriend because of convenience and/or because you don't have the heart to break up with her right now. Those things will become infinitely more difficult to do once you've been sharing the same residence for a while.

And this is just on the emotional level, there are also legal ramifications to consider.

For instance, evicting a co-tenant who doesn't pay rent (and who has never paid any rent) may almost be impossible (even if you moved out yourself, you may still be liable for the rent).

And there is also the concept of de factor relationship in Australia (in the UK and the US, we call it common law marriage). The idea is that you may be considered legally married to that person after having spent a certain amount of time living with her.

In Australia the term de facto relationship is often used to refer to relationships between any two persons who are not married, but are effectively living in certain domestic circumstances.

source

But it could be even worse than that, if she needs a partner visa to enter Australia (which I do not know if this is the case because you didn't say), you may both be required to prove/swear to the fact that you've both been in a de facto relationship for a while now.

Again, please both realize what it means to take this seemingly innocuous step of traveling and moving in together.

Understand also that you will be uprooting this girl from her own local environment. If she travels and moves in with you, she will have no family, no friends, no job, no support network of any kind, except for you.

Are you ready for that responsibility? What will you do if she becomes depressed? What will you do if she wants to fill that void by having a baby? Will you even have time to be with her? And if she's not working now because someone is supporting her, don't think that she will start working after the move if you or her parents are still supporting her.

Even if you move in with her, it may make more sense to have her follow you three months, or even six months later.

And even if you pay for her trip and subsidize a huge part of her expenses, it may make more sense that you don't both move into the same residence and that you only get yourself a small studio/a shared room for yourself.

Now based on your username, I'm guessing that you're a computer programmer. Also, since your girlfriend is not working, I'm assuming that her job prospects are limited even if she does find a job.

Having her move in her own shared place would be one way to make her independent from you and to motivate her to find an actual job.

Moving in with a girlfriend/boyfriend is like marriage.

If you move in with your girlfriend because of convenience and/or because you don't feel comfortable breaking up with her right now. Those actions will become infinitely more difficult to do once you've been sharing the same residence for a while.

And this is just on the emotional level, there are also legal ramifications to consider.

For instance, evicting a co-tenant (a former girlfriend/boyfriend) who doesn't pay rent (and who has never paid any rent) may almost be impossible (even if you moved out yourself, you may still be liable for the rent to the landlord).

And there is also the concept of de factor relationship in Australia (in the UK and the US, we call it common law marriage). The idea is that you may be considered legally married to that person after having spent a certain amount of time living with her.

In Australia the term de facto relationship is often used to refer to relationships between any two persons who are not married, but are effectively living in certain domestic circumstances.

source

But it could be even worse than that, if she needs a partner visa to enter Australia (which I have no idea if this is the case because you didn't say one way or another), you may both be required to prove/swear to the fact that you've both been in a de facto relationship for a while now.

Again, please both realize what it means to take this seemingly innocuous step of traveling and moving in together.

Understand also that you will be uprooting this girl from her own local environment. If she travels and moves in with you so far away from her home, she will have no local family, no local friends, no job, and no support network of any kind, except for you.

Are you ready for that responsibility? What will you do if she becomes depressed? What will you do if she wants to fill in that void by having a baby? Will you even have time to be with her? And if she's not working now at her location because someone is supporting her, don't think that she will start working after the move if you or her parents are still supporting her after the move.

Even if you pay for her trip and subsidize a huge part of her expenses, it may make more sense that you don't both move into the same residence and that you only get yourself a small studio/a shared room for yourself.

And even if you move in with her, it may make more sense to have her follow you three months, or even six months later.

Now based on your username, I'm guessing that you're a computer programmer. Also, since your girlfriend is not working, I'm assuming that her job prospects are limited even if she does find a job.

Having her move in her own shared place under her own name (not yours) would be one way to make her independent from you and to motivate her to find an actual job. Also, sharing a place with roommates would teach her how to get along with roommates, which is a valuable skill to have if she doesn't have it already, and it would force her to be semi-social with her roommates, instead of only relying for companionship on you (since I assume you'll pretty busy once you start working, at least at the beginning).