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I am dating a woman I met 2 weeks ago. We understand each other very well and like each other. For the past 4 days, she was away in her hometown and came back yesterday evening. During that time I had a terrible sore throat and constant coughing to the point I could not sleep. I hoped it would go away by the time she came back so that we could spend the night together.

Sadly, it did not go away and I told her that it might be better if we spent the night separately because I didn't want her to suffer and stay awake just because of my constant coughing. That's the way I communicated it, but she was really angry at me. Not writing back for hours, then finally being snappy and saying I should leave her alone. I said OK and left her for the evening.

So now it is the next morning. She didn't write, I didn't write until now.

I really want to be on good terms again, but I don't want to apologize for anything, because in my mind I did nothing wrong by wanting to protect her from a sleepless night. If she would have just written, "I don't care, please still come over" I would have come. But she didn't and simply blocked herself.

How could I communicate that I did nothing wrong and don't want to apologize, and that the best thing would be that she apologizes because she ruined the evening and overreacted, while still getting a "happy ending".

PS: This person COULD be my next relationship. In my past two-year relationship I apologized for everything even if it wasn't my fault and that really came back to me with time because I was blamed for everything because I didn't stand my ground prior. I don't want to repeat that mistake again!

UPDATE: After reading all the answers and comments, i decided that it would be best to apologize for phrasing it as i did, and making it clear to her that i would have loved to spend the night together but was just worried of her well being. I phrased the apology very carefully and eventually she forgave me, apologized for being so angry as well and invited me over to her for the evening (last evening) and we spent the night together and had a great time. During the night i actually woke up a couple of times and had to cough really hard for some minutes, but she really did not seem to mind at all. Thanks for all the answers and suggerstions, it really helped me!

I am dating a woman I met 2 weeks ago. We understand each other very well and like each other. For the past 4 days, she was away in her hometown and came back yesterday evening. During that time I had a terrible sore throat and constant coughing to the point I could not sleep. I hoped it would go away by the time she came back so that we could spend the night together.

Sadly, it did not go away and I told her that it might be better if we spent the night separately because I didn't want her to suffer and stay awake just because of my constant coughing. That's the way I communicated it, but she was really angry at me. Not writing back for hours, then finally being snappy and saying I should leave her alone. I said OK and left her for the evening.

So now it is the next morning. She didn't write, I didn't write until now.

I really want to be on good terms again, but I don't want to apologize for anything, because in my mind I did nothing wrong by wanting to protect her from a sleepless night. If she would have just written, "I don't care, please still come over" I would have come. But she didn't and simply blocked herself.

How could I communicate that I did nothing wrong and don't want to apologize, and that the best thing would be that she apologizes because she ruined the evening and overreacted, while still getting a "happy ending".

PS: This person COULD be my next relationship. In my past two-year relationship I apologized for everything even if it wasn't my fault and that really came back to me with time because I was blamed for everything because I didn't stand my ground prior. I don't want to repeat that mistake again!

UPDATE: After reading all the answers and comments, I decided that it would be best to apologize for phrasing it as I did, and making it clear to her that I would have loved to spend the night together but was just worried of her well being. I phrased the apology very carefully and eventually she forgave me, apologized for being so angry as well and invited me over to her for the evening (last evening) and we spent the night together and had a great time. During the night I actually woke up a couple of times and had to cough really hard for some minutes, but she really did not seem to mind at all. Thanks for all the answers and suggestions, it really helped me!

I am dating a woman I met 2 weeks ago. We understand each other very well and like each other. For the past 4 days, she was away in her hometown and came back yesterday evening. During that time I had a terrible sore throat and constant coughing to the point I could not sleep. I hoped it would go away by the time she came back so that we could spend the night together.

Sadly, it did not go away and I told her that it might be better if we spent the night separately because I didn't want her to suffer and stay awake just because of my constant coughing. That's the way I communicated it, but she was really angry at me. Not writing back for hours, then finally being snappy and saying I should leave her alone. I said OK and left her for the evening.

So now it is the next morning. She didn't write, I didn't write until now.

I really want to be on good terms again, but I don't want to apologize for anything, because in my mind I did nothing wrong by wanting to protect her from a sleepless night. If she would have just written, "I don't care, please still come over" I would have come. But she didn't and simply blocked herself.

How could I communicate that I did nothing wrong and don't want to apologize, and that the best thing would be that she apologizes because she ruined the evening and overreacted, while still getting a "happy ending".

PS: This person COULD be my next relationship. In my past two-year relationship I apologized for everything even if it wasn't my fault and that really came back to me with time because I was blamed for everything because I didn't stand my ground prior. I don't want to repeat that mistake again!

UPDATE: After reading all the answers and comments, i decided that it would be best to apologize for phrasing it as i did, and making it clear to her that i would have loved to spend the night together but was just worried of her well being. I phrased the apology very carefully and eventually she forgave me, apologized for being so angry as well and invited me over to her for the evening (last evening) and we spent the night together and had a great time. During the night i actually woke up a couple of times and had to caugh really hard for some minutes, but she really did not seem to mind at all. Thanks for all the answers and suggerstions, it really helped me!

I am dating a woman I met 2 weeks ago. We understand each other very well and like each other. For the past 4 days, she was away in her hometown and came back yesterday evening. During that time I had a terrible sore throat and constant coughing to the point I could not sleep. I hoped it would go away by the time she came back so that we could spend the night together.

Sadly, it did not go away and I told her that it might be better if we spent the night separately because I didn't want her to suffer and stay awake just because of my constant coughing. That's the way I communicated it, but she was really angry at me. Not writing back for hours, then finally being snappy and saying I should leave her alone. I said OK and left her for the evening.

So now it is the next morning. She didn't write, I didn't write until now.

I really want to be on good terms again, but I don't want to apologize for anything, because in my mind I did nothing wrong by wanting to protect her from a sleepless night. If she would have just written, "I don't care, please still come over" I would have come. But she didn't and simply blocked herself.

How could I communicate that I did nothing wrong and don't want to apologize, and that the best thing would be that she apologizes because she ruined the evening and overreacted, while still getting a "happy ending".

PS: This person COULD be my next relationship. In my past two-year relationship I apologized for everything even if it wasn't my fault and that really came back to me with time because I was blamed for everything because I didn't stand my ground prior. I don't want to repeat that mistake again!

UPDATE: After reading all the answers and comments, i decided that it would be best to apologize for phrasing it as i did, and making it clear to her that i would have loved to spend the night together but was just worried of her well being. I phrased the apology very carefully and eventually she forgave me, apologized for being so angry as well and invited me over to her for the evening (last evening) and we spent the night together and had a great time. During the night i actually woke up a couple of times and had to cough really hard for some minutes, but she really did not seem to mind at all. Thanks for all the answers and suggerstions, it really helped me!

I am dating a woman I met 2 weeks ago. We understand each other very well and like each other. For the past 4 days, she was away in her hometown and came back yesterday evening. During that time I had a terrible sore throat and constant coughing to the point I could not sleep. I hoped it would go away by the time she came back so that we could spend the night together.

Sadly, it did not go away and I told her that it might be better if we spent the night separately because I didn't want her to suffer and stay awake just because of my constant coughing. That's the way I communicated it, but she was really angry at me. Not writing back for hours, then finally being snappy and saying I should leave her alone. I said OK and left her for the evening.

So now it is the next morning. She didn't write, I didn't write until now.

I really want to be on good terms again, but I don't want to apologize for anything, because in my mind I did nothing wrong by wanting to protect her from a sleepless night. If she would have just written, "I don't care, please still come over" I would have come. But she didn't and simply blocked herself.

How could I communicate that I did nothing wrong and don't want to apologize, and that the best thing would be that she apologizes because she ruined the evening and overreacted, while still getting a "happy ending".

PS: This person COULD be my next relationship. In my past two-year relationship I apologized for everything even if it wasn't my fault and that really came back to me with time because I was blamed for everything because I didn't stand my ground prior. I don't want to repeat that mistake again!

I am dating a woman I met 2 weeks ago. We understand each other very well and like each other. For the past 4 days, she was away in her hometown and came back yesterday evening. During that time I had a terrible sore throat and constant coughing to the point I could not sleep. I hoped it would go away by the time she came back so that we could spend the night together.

Sadly, it did not go away and I told her that it might be better if we spent the night separately because I didn't want her to suffer and stay awake just because of my constant coughing. That's the way I communicated it, but she was really angry at me. Not writing back for hours, then finally being snappy and saying I should leave her alone. I said OK and left her for the evening.

So now it is the next morning. She didn't write, I didn't write until now.

I really want to be on good terms again, but I don't want to apologize for anything, because in my mind I did nothing wrong by wanting to protect her from a sleepless night. If she would have just written, "I don't care, please still come over" I would have come. But she didn't and simply blocked herself.

How could I communicate that I did nothing wrong and don't want to apologize, and that the best thing would be that she apologizes because she ruined the evening and overreacted, while still getting a "happy ending".

PS: This person COULD be my next relationship. In my past two-year relationship I apologized for everything even if it wasn't my fault and that really came back to me with time because I was blamed for everything because I didn't stand my ground prior. I don't want to repeat that mistake again!

UPDATE: After reading all the answers and comments, i decided that it would be best to apologize for phrasing it as i did, and making it clear to her that i would have loved to spend the night together but was just worried of her well being. I phrased the apology very carefully and eventually she forgave me, apologized for being so angry as well and invited me over to her for the evening (last evening) and we spent the night together and had a great time. During the night i actually woke up a couple of times and had to caugh really hard for some minutes, but she really did not seem to mind at all. Thanks for all the answers and suggerstions, it really helped me!