Timeline for How to ask a new friend about his sexuality?
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| Jan 5, 2018 at 14:47 | comment | added | Tensibai | Sorry if was offending, that was not the intent. I'm probably not explaining properly what I have in mind. | |
| Jan 5, 2018 at 14:33 | comment | added | Markino | I'm not taking it easy. I'm also the super-sensitive kind of guy who takes a lot of time to go through the hardship of rejection. Just, it doesn't help me to know that the girl rejected me because he likes another guy, or she likes girls, or she wants to become a nun. It's a "no" to me, I have to deal with the uber-bad feeling of being rejected, not with the "why". But this is completely off-topic as per what the question's author is asking. | |
| Jan 5, 2018 at 14:26 | comment | added | Tensibai | Glad you take it easy, that's not everyone reaction when the 'no' is driven by an unknown factor. | |
| Jan 5, 2018 at 14:18 | comment | added | Markino | @Tensibai no, never been sad about that. There's nothing to be sad about asking a girl out. Whether she says "no" because she doesn't like me specifically or because she oriented towards other girls rather than boys is irrelevant: it's a "no", that's all that matters. In the situation you're speculating, it all boils down to managing rejection from a crush (aka the dreaded "friendzoning"), regardless of his/her reasons to reject you. That's why I think it's off-topic and useless here. | |
| Jan 5, 2018 at 14:15 | comment | added | Tensibai | And you never been sad after a few meet ups and then asking her to discover she's not sharing your sexual orientation at all and that you shouldn't have expected it ? This question makes me think the OP is worried about hurting his friend if that happens by letting him think unintentionally he may be interested. | |
| Jan 5, 2018 at 14:05 | comment | added | Markino | @Tensibai, this is off-topic here imo, and regardless of the sexual horientation. When I want to date a girl, I ask her out; I'm not expecting her to do that work for me and tell me "Hey, do you like me?". After I ask, she can reply accordingly. Here, it's the same. Should some sort of interest from his friend be there, he will ask. | |
| Jan 5, 2018 at 14:01 | comment | added | Tensibai | re "'Why should you? Why do you feel the need to?" : what if the friend has mistakenly took the meet ups as light dates ? How to handle the case and make clear the relation would stay at friendship ? | |
| Jan 5, 2018 at 13:49 | history | answered | Markino | CC BY-SA 3.0 |