Timeline for How can I politely ask my date to not use her phone unnecessarily during dinner, without ruining the night out?
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Feb 9, 2018 at 17:26 | history | undeleted | Catija | ||
Feb 9, 2018 at 8:34 | history | deleted | user11886 | via Vote | |
Feb 1, 2018 at 10:56 | comment | added | arp | The stereotype of millennials is that they neither expect nor understand certain courtesies. ;-) It might help, in any case, to make that minimum level of expected courtesy clear up front -- "I'm looking forward to this -- an actual date and not just hanging out together." (While complaining about the poor manners of the younger generation goes back as far as we have written records, and presumably much further, it does seem to many people that "the screen generation" is lacking in certain communication skills, see for example diverseeducation.com/article/71222 ) | |
Jan 31, 2018 at 4:49 | comment | added | D.Hutchinson | @arp, no not mismatched expectations; I'm just asking for a minimum level of courtesy - for an hour or so of dinner time. The dates are a bit formal, though, given that we go to restaurants that require reservations, sometimes have well-known chefs, etc. Not like dress code-required formal (e.g. no jacket required), but definitely not a casual trip to Starbucks or McDonald's ... | |
Jan 28, 2018 at 3:20 | comment | added | arp | I do believe the core issue here is mismatched expectations, including how formal the date is. | |
Jan 28, 2018 at 1:56 | comment | added | user11886 | Remember that this is happening in the more formal context of a date where there should already be an effort to behave well on their own initiative. They shouldn't be texting here anymore than they would in a job interview. Texting in this situation is being egregiously rude to the person they are presumably trying to impress. An exclamation of surprise toward that bad judgement is entirely proportionate and much more likely to succeed than a weak PC response. | |
Jan 27, 2018 at 22:23 | comment | added | arp | "What are you doing? You don't text when you are on a date!" -- that comes across as pretty rude to me. If I got distracted by my phone on a date I'd want a gentle reminder, not an authoritarian command. | |
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Jan 25, 2018 at 8:55 | history | answered | user11886 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |