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My GF has a leading role in a "multiple teams" organization. Each of these teams have a specific job to do, and they are all linked in one way or another. Each one has an impact on the others. More than often, se needs to (must!) have it both ways. And it far from being easy. How do I know that? Because we talk a lot. As she's a great professional, and a very smart person, she has to navigate between rocks and pitfalls. A path must be found between the dangers. That's how I improved my skills: listening to her. Listening to what happened, how she reacted, how she feels, has helped me in my professional, but also personal, life. You listen, and bring solutions, and you're careful to not make bigger problems arise.

If you want to show support to your partner, first and foremost: listen when she talks, and even (above all!) if she complains. Listen. A lot of people need to (kind of) "rant" in order to vent their frustration or anger. They know they were right, but coulnd't do more than help and say nothing. But also, sometimes, you can't correct people who are wrong, they have to realize that they are by themselves. They can do that with the help of a friendly ear.

My best advice would be to not try to solve the problem for her. Ask questions. Ask for clarification. Show interest, but don't be judgemental. You're not the court, nor the judge, and this isn't a trial. There's no need to find someone guilty or not at the end :)

You said that once you were on the parents' side. She may have felt betrayed, or at least not being supported by her SO. She may now be careful and playing defensive anytime she shares a problem at work. But, in my opinion, you can't just answer with an emoji or a short "ok", you need to listen to her feelings, to her guts. Let her explain with details what happened, what was expected (from her or the kids or parents). Dig deeper if you think you didn't properly understand the situation.

You don't need to say too much as long as you listen to what she has to say. I do that all the time, as my GF has taught me, and it works really good :)

My GF has a leading role in a "multiple teams" organization. Each of these teams have a specific job to do, and they are all linked in one way or another. Each one has an impact on the others. More than often, se needs to (must!) have it both ways. And it far from being easy. How do I know that? Because we talk a lot. As she's a great professional, and a very smart person, she has to navigate between rocks and pitfalls. A path must be found between the dangers. That's how I improved my skills: listening to her. Listening to what happened, how she reacted, how she feels, has helped me in my professional, but also personal, life. You listen, and bring solutions, and you're careful to not make bigger problems arise. I'm the supporting ear of her job problems, and it helps both of us to better understand each other.

If you want to show support to your partner, first and foremost: listen when she talks, and even (above all!) if she complains. Listen. A lot of people need to (kind of) "rant" in order to vent their frustration or anger. They know they were right, but coulnd't do more than help and say nothing. But also, sometimes, you can't correct people who are wrong, they have to realize that they are by themselves. They can do that with the help of a friendly ear.

My best advice would be to not try to solve the problem for her. Ask questions. Ask for clarification. Show interest, but don't be judgemental. You're not the court, nor the judge, and this isn't a trial. There's no need to find someone guilty or not at the end :)

You said that once you were on the parents' side. She may have felt betrayed, or at least not being supported by her SO. She may now be careful and playing defensive anytime she shares a problem at work. But, in my opinion, you can't just answer with an emoji or a short "ok", you need to listen to her feelings, to her guts. Let her explain with details what happened, what was expected (from her or the kids or parents). Dig deeper if you think you didn't properly understand the situation.

You don't need to say too much as long as you listen to what she has to say. I do that all the time, as my GF has taught me, and it works really good :)

My GF has a leading role in a "multiple teams" organization. Each of these teams have a specific job to do, and they are all linked in one way or another. Each one has an impact on the others. More than often, se needs to (must!) have it both ways. And it far from being easy. How do I know that? Because we talk a lot. As she's a great professional, and a very smart person, she has to navigate between rocks and pitfalls. A path must be found between the dangers. That's how I improved my skills: listening to her. Listening to what happened, how she reacted, how she feels, has helped me in my professional, but also personal, life. You listen, and bring solutions, and you're careful not to make bigger problems arise.

If you want to show support to your partner, first and foremost: listen when she talks, and even (above all!) if she complains. Listen. A lot of people need to (kind of) "rant" in order to vent their frustration or anger. They know they were right, but coulnd't do more than help and say nothing. Sometimes, you can't correct people who are wrong, they have to realize that they are by themselves.

My best advice would be to not try to solve the problem for her. Ask questions. Ask for clarification. Show interest, but don't be judgemental. You're not the court, nor the judge, and this isn't a trial. There's no need to find someone guilty or not at the end :)

You said that once you were on the parents' side. She may have felt betrayed, or at least not being supported by her SO. She may now be careful and playing defensive anytime she shares a problem at work. But, in my opinion, you can't just answer with an emoji or a short "ok", you need to listen to her feelings, to her guts. Let her explain with details what happened, what was expected (from her or the kids or parents). Dig deeper if you think you didn't properly understand the situation.

You don't need to say too much as long as you listen to what she has to say. I do that all the time, as my GF has taught me, and it works really good :)

My GF has a leading role in a "multiple teams" organization. Each of these teams have a specific job to do, and they are all linked in one way or another. Each one has an impact on the others. More than often, se needs to (must!) have it both ways. And it far from being easy. How do I know that? Because we talk a lot. As she's a great professional, and a very smart person, she has to navigate between rocks and pitfalls. A path must be found between the dangers. That's how I improved my skills: listening to her. Listening to what happened, how she reacted, how she feels, has helped me in my professional, but also personal, life. You listen, and bring solutions, and you're careful to not make bigger problems arise.

If you want to show support to your partner, first and foremost: listen when she talks, and even (above all!) if she complains. Listen. A lot of people need to (kind of) "rant" in order to vent their frustration or anger. They know they were right, but coulnd't do more than help and say nothing. But also, sometimes, you can't correct people who are wrong, they have to realize that they are by themselves. They can do that with the help of a friendly ear.

My best advice would be to not try to solve the problem for her. Ask questions. Ask for clarification. Show interest, but don't be judgemental. You're not the court, nor the judge, and this isn't a trial. There's no need to find someone guilty or not at the end :)

You said that once you were on the parents' side. She may have felt betrayed, or at least not being supported by her SO. She may now be careful and playing defensive anytime she shares a problem at work. But, in my opinion, you can't just answer with an emoji or a short "ok", you need to listen to her feelings, to her guts. Let her explain with details what happened, what was expected (from her or the kids or parents). Dig deeper if you think you didn't properly understand the situation.

You don't need to say too much as long as you listen to what she has to say. I do that all the time, as my GF has taught me, and it works really good :)

My GF has a leading role in a "multiple teams" organization. Each of these teams have a specific job to do, and they are all linked in one way or another. Each one has an impact on the others. More than often, se needs to (must!) have it both ways. And it far from being easy. How do I know that? Because we talk a lot. As she's a great professional, and a very smart person, she has to navigate between rocks and pitfalls. A path must be found between the dangers. That's how I improved my skills: listening to her. Listening to what happened, how she reacted, how she feels, has helped me in my professional, but also personal, life.

If you want to show support to your partner, first and foremost: listen when she talks, and even (above all!) if she complains. Listen. A lot of people need to (kind of) "rant" in order to vent their frustration or anger. They know they were right, but coulnd't do more than help and say nothing. Sometimes, you can't correct people who are wrong, they have to realize that they are by themselves.

My best advice would be to not try to solve the problem for her. Ask questions. Ask for clarification. Show interest, but don't be judgemental. You're not the court, nor the judge, and this isn't a trial. There's no need to find someone guilty or not at the end :)

You said that once you were on the parents' side. She may have felt betrayed, or at least not being supported by her SO. She may now be careful and playing defensive anytime she shares a problem at work. But, in my opinion, you can't just answer with an emoji or a short "ok", you need to listen to her feelings, to her guts. Let her explain with details what happened, what was expected (from her or the kids or parents). Dig deeper if you think you didn't properly understand the situation.

You don't need to say too much as long as you listen to what she has to say. I do that all the time, as my GF has taught me, and it works really good :)

My GF has a leading role in a "multiple teams" organization. Each of these teams have a specific job to do, and they are all linked in one way or another. Each one has an impact on the others. More than often, se needs to (must!) have it both ways. And it far from being easy. How do I know that? Because we talk a lot. As she's a great professional, and a very smart person, she has to navigate between rocks and pitfalls. A path must be found between the dangers. That's how I improved my skills: listening to her. Listening to what happened, how she reacted, how she feels, has helped me in my professional, but also personal, life. You listen, and bring solutions, and you're careful not to make bigger problems arise.

If you want to show support to your partner, first and foremost: listen when she talks, and even (above all!) if she complains. Listen. A lot of people need to (kind of) "rant" in order to vent their frustration or anger. They know they were right, but coulnd't do more than help and say nothing. Sometimes, you can't correct people who are wrong, they have to realize that they are by themselves.

My best advice would be to not try to solve the problem for her. Ask questions. Ask for clarification. Show interest, but don't be judgemental. You're not the court, nor the judge, and this isn't a trial. There's no need to find someone guilty or not at the end :)

You said that once you were on the parents' side. She may have felt betrayed, or at least not being supported by her SO. She may now be careful and playing defensive anytime she shares a problem at work. But, in my opinion, you can't just answer with an emoji or a short "ok", you need to listen to her feelings, to her guts. Let her explain with details what happened, what was expected (from her or the kids or parents). Dig deeper if you think you didn't properly understand the situation.

You don't need to say too much as long as you listen to what she has to say. I do that all the time, as my GF has taught me, and it works really good :)