Timeline for How to politely tell my girlfriend to move out? (we hadn't actually agreed to live together)
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| Nov 29, 2023 at 3:17 | history | protected | CommunityBot | ||
| Nov 21, 2023 at 16:42 | answer | added | Martijn | timeline score: 0 | |
| Aug 4, 2023 at 7:04 | answer | added | vspmis | timeline score: 5 | |
| Mar 9, 2023 at 11:17 | answer | added | virolino | timeline score: 3 | |
| Mar 9, 2023 at 11:04 | comment | added | virolino | @Andrew: now I am just curious, and I do not find an explanation in your question. Did you ever DO anything, or did you ever SAY anything to make your girlfriend understand that you do not want her to live with you? If yes, please EDIT the question and add the details. Also, why are you still afraid to have a normal discussion with her, after 2.5 years? Just talking about needs, emotions... | |
| Mar 9, 2023 at 11:00 | comment | added | virolino | @Andrew: These pages explains with better words my point of view. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Silence_procedure and dictionary.cambridge.org/us/example/english/tacit-agreement | |
| Mar 7, 2023 at 3:05 | comment | added | Andrew | @AsheraH I didn't say that I don't see us living together for the foreseeable future; I just think that if we do move in together, an agreement needs to happen first (also, I'd prefer if we move in together when we actually move cities, not now) | |
| Mar 6, 2023 at 6:08 | comment | added | virolino | Yes, "wait" is not at all "please move in". Also, being silent is not at all "please leave" - especially when you already have a "please wait" in between. The truth is there somewhere, in the middle. | |
| Mar 6, 2023 at 2:28 | comment | added | DaveG | @virolino asking someone to wait for you is rather different than asking them to move in with you. It was pretty common that my girlfriend (now wife) and I had "sleepovers" but we had some very serious discussions before we lived together. | |
| Mar 1, 2023 at 8:58 | comment | added | virolino | @Andrew: I read your question again. Actually, you both used words VERY clearly: "she joked in whatsapp that she had left because she thought that I wanted everything cleared on the same day (when she texted me that I said "of course not! if I'm coming back, the more reason for you to wait for me there")". So, which part of "wait for me there" can be understood as "please go away"? I am a straight man, but I understand exactly what she understood too - that she is welcome to stay. | |
| Feb 28, 2023 at 19:56 | comment | added | AsheraH | Your reasons for needing some alone time really do not add up to “I can’t see us living together in the foreseeable future”. Especially since you’ve been together that long and have seriously talked about moving to another city together, checking out apartments, …, why is this so hard for you? | |
| Feb 28, 2023 at 17:07 | comment | added | Andrew | @virolino how am I expected to say no if she never asked a question to answer yes or no? | |
| Feb 28, 2023 at 17:06 | comment | added | Andrew | her place is actually her parents' place, so that wouldn't work (edited question to make this more clear) | |
| Feb 28, 2023 at 17:06 | history | edited | Andrew | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
specify she lives with parents
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| Feb 28, 2023 at 9:36 | comment | added | Brian | Why don't you exchange apartments? | |
| Feb 27, 2023 at 10:02 | comment | added | virolino | "spend with her ... already 5 days" - to me, that sounds a lot like tacit / implied agreement to live together. I understand that it was she who pushed the things a little towards this situation, but you accepted it by not saying "NO". So your question is more like: "How to send her out after we lived together for some time". Am I wrong? | |
| S Feb 27, 2023 at 1:54 | review | First questions | |||
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| S Feb 27, 2023 at 1:54 | history | asked | Andrew | CC BY-SA 4.0 |