I have been dating a Japanese woman in Japan for two months now. Until now we've regularly met each other on weekends and were talking during the week, mostly with instant messaging. I never said explicitly "I love you" to her but I told her that I really like to spend time with her. I planned to tell her on yet to be planned weekend together (which I asked her about already).
Last week I noticed a reduction of her communication with me. I asked her if she is being busy work or has some other problems. She shortly told me, yes she is busy with work and has some problems. I told her that she can tell me about her issues if she wants to.
Now at start of the weekend she told me that she's got a chance of doing a doctorate and therefore the PhD she's been dreaming of doing. But she also told me that she wants to put serious time and effort into her PhD and thus cannot spend time with me anymore. She said that she wants to focus on her career.
As I did a PhD myself I think I can understand the necessity to put much time and effort into this.
How can I tell her that I believe that doing a PhD and dating/relationship are not two incompatible things? I want to tell her that, since I am a PostDoc researcher I perfectly understand the need to sometimes vanish from all other personal connections and just focus on research. I want to tell her that I want to try to support her with this decision and am really happy for her. But at the same time I want her to give us a chance to at least try and see if we can balance the work and our fledgling relationship.
I do not want to put more pressure onto her by now saying "I love you and that's why you have to stay with me". I just want her to feel like this is no problem but just something our relationship can grow on.