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Last year someone found me annoying. No grudges! Just "I wouldn't choose to sit next to him." This year she doesn't find me annoying, and I try to talk to her but it ends up being very awkward. I'm a guy, and she's a girl. That makes my various attempts start to look either very desperate or very thirsty. I've been told I'm incredibly engaging to talk to, but finding a topic is really difficult for me.

I'm trying to talk to more people, like my therapist told me to, and I know we have similar interests, but it's very difficult for me. I end up just saying "How's your day been?" and getting an answer I can't really respond to with anything other than "that's good."

I have BPD ⁽¹⁾, if it helps.

How do I start a conversation with her in a way that doesn't look like "another failed initiative"?

^{(1) Borderline Personality Disorder}

Last year a girl I go to school with found me annoying. She didn't have any grudges, it was just "I wouldn't choose to sit next to him." This year she doesn't find me annoying, and I have been tring to talk to her but it ends up being very awkward. I'm a guy, and she's a girl. That makes my various attempts start to look either very desperate or very thirsty. I've been told I'm incredibly engaging to talk to, but finding a topic is really difficult for me.

I'm trying to talk to more people, like my therapist told me to, and I know we have similar interests, but it's very difficult for me. I end up just saying "How's your day been?" and getting an answer I can't really respond to with anything other than "that's good."

I have BPD ⁽¹⁾, if it helps.

How do I start a conversation with her in a way that doesn't look like "another failed initiative"?

^{(1) Borderline Personality Disorder}

Last year someone found me annoying. No grudges! Just "I wouldn't choose to sit next to him." This year she doesn't find me annoying, and I try to talk to her but it ends up being very awkward. I'm a guy, and she's a girl. That makes my various attempts start to look either very desperate or very thirsty. I've been told I'm incredibly engaging to talk to, but finding a topic is really difficult for me.

I'm trying to talk to more people, like my therapist told me to, and I know we have similar interests, but it's very difficult for me. I end up just saying "How's your day been?" and getting an answer I can't really respond to with anything other than "that's good."

I have BPD, if it helps.

How do I start a conversation with her in a way that doesn't look like "another failed initiative"?

Last year someone found me annoying. No grudges! Just "I wouldn't choose to sit next to him." This year she doesn't find me annoying, and I try to talk to her but it ends up being very awkward. I'm a guy, and she's a girl. That makes my various attempts start to look either very desperate or very thirsty. I've been told I'm incredibly engaging to talk to, but finding a topic is really difficult for me.

I'm trying to talk to more people, like my therapist told me to, and I know we have similar interests, but it's very difficult for me. I end up just saying "How's your day been?" and getting an answer I can't really respond to with anything other than "that's good."

I have BPD ⁽¹⁾, if it helps.

How do I start a conversation with her in a way that doesn't look like "another failed initiative"?

^{(1) Borderline Personality Disorder}