A dear friend of mine is getting married in a couple of weeks. She's such an extroverted person, always ready to party. Above all she loves dancing.
On the other hand, I'm the exact opposite. I don't feel comfortable when dancing, because I don't like my body, I don't like the way my body moves, I don't want people looking at me. Dancing in public makes me feel weird and ugly.
Every now and then (and more and more now that we're getting closer to the wedding) she says things like "Oh, I would love if all my friends danced that day!", then she looks at me like "I'm obviously talking to you, life is short, enjoy it! :)"
So, I know I could sound silly, but she cares a lot and I don't want to let her down, especially on her wedding day. I'm afraid I'll feel awful if I actually get on the dance floor.
How do I tell that her without hurting her feeling?
- It's not that I don't dance at all. I do dance, but only when I'm alone.
- I really hate the kind of music my friend listens to (aka the music she chose for the wedding party).
- I've already tried dancing at other weddings, because I'm tired of being the way I am, the different one, the one who sits at the table while everyone else is getting fun, but every time I did it I later regretted it.
Italian culture regarding this topic:
Well, dancing at the wedding party is quite important here in Italy. I mean, nobody judges you if you don't dance, but almost everyone does enjoy it on such occasions. It's our (better say, their) way to have fun together. Plus, the bride really, really loves it, so I guess it'll be even more important in this particular party.