I have known my friend for only 1.5 years but we connected very well from the beginning and I would now call her my best friend. I've known her from college, she still lives in the same area though I moved away after graduating in May. We keep in touch regularly, over text and periodic catch-up calls. I visited her for her birthday last month and since that we have been talking about once a week.
However, last week she cancelled the call because she said she had to be there for a friend who has been broken up with. She rescheduled it for the next day but when I reconfirmed the next afternoon if she is still good to talk, she said she cannot as she was with the friend.
We are in touch over text but have not set a new time to talk. Today she said that she is emotionally drained; clearly her friend is taking a lot of her energy.
Why I am really worried is that I fear that she will disappear for a certain amount of time. Last year she was under depression for about a couple of months. During this time, she cancelled a call we scheduled and did not express any interest in talking for 2 months, and eventually stopped replying to texts until she reached out and came back in touch.
I am really worried that will happen again. How can I respect her space and time to herself as she deals with this while supporting her and encouraging her to keep in touch and communicate - over text until she is ready to talk?
She is my best friend and I really value her and it's just tough when I want to help and support but cannot find a way to do so if there is limited communication.
Thanks for any suggestions!