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How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?
and made it as clear as I could that it was going to be just the two of us and that it's not going to be like our regular interactions.
This sounds to me like you did not explicitly mention the word '...
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How can I explain to a friend's child that I don't like sleepovers without parents?
He's a kid. Treat him like a kid. That means being explicit about your boundaries.
Kid: "Can I stay the night? I want to play some more on the VR tomorrow!"
You: "No. I'd rather you don't stay ...
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How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?
Adding onto what Tinkeringbell said, some people will assume that if someone of the opposite gender asks them to dinner, or a movie, or coffee, or some other date-like activity, alone, that that ...
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How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?
All the answers thus far seem to focus on verbal communication, which is a terribly blunt instrument when it comes to actually seeming human in your interactions. I'd strongly advise against trying to ...
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How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?
This answer started as a response to this comment, but I realized it does in fact address the question:
"By the time you have 3 one on ones when in the past it was group stuff she should figure it ...
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How can I ask guests not to bring alcohol as host gifts?
When I host a party, I usually always do the same: inform the guests (long enough) before they attend, and tell them what they can expect. Because I know what some friends/coworkers like, but not with ...
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How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?
Why do you need to avoid it? If she is not ready to date do you want to not see her? It was not a wasted evening just because she did not know it was not a date. It was cleared up by the end of ...
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How can I explain to a friend's child that I don't like sleepovers without parents?
Please tell me if I've got this right, not completely sure if I've interpreted your question correctly but I've tried my best
I understand where you're coming from. It can be awkward having a child ...
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How can I ask guests not to bring alcohol as host gifts?
I help to host an annual party that has been going on for years, with dozens of attendees. In the early years, it was almost like a potluck: people brought things they'd made. Cookies or tarts, home ...
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How can I explain to a friend's child that I don't like sleepovers without parents?
You should tell about this situation to his mother, and then, when he'll ask you again, reply with:
You should ask your mother.
At this point, his mother will tell him "no", giving him a ...
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How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?
It depends how she asked it. If she sounded excited or happy, great. From here, I'll assume that this was the case.
Overall, I get the impression that both of you enjoyed the date. Therefore, I would ...
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How can I ask guests not to bring alcohol as host gifts?
I have several friends who have hosted endlessly-growing collections of gifted or left-behind alcohols accumulated from parties. There are a few things that can happen to such a collection:
Serve ...
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How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?
No, you couldn't avoid that surprise. So don't worry about it and set another date/meeting/rendez-vous/WHATEVER. If she accepts, that's good enough, just make sure to move forward.
In my experience, ...
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How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?
It seems to me you are asking two different questions here. One is in the title: "How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?"
Well, that one is easy. Just tell them "Hey, I'm ...
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How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?
As to how to avoid the same situation with the same person:
Answer "yes; would you like another one?"
Then it's clear, and you are getting to ask the question at a good time when she's just seen how ...
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How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?
I'm going to offer an alternative non-explicit version to augment the other answers.
I'm assuming you're a straight cis-gendered male. At risk of being down-voted, most straight women (even in this ...
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How to avoid looking/sounding unfriendly when I don't speak the same language as everyone at work?
Is there a way to know if my concerns are valid and if my coworkers do think I am not interested in speaking to them?
One way to find that out is by asking one of them - of whom you know is honest - ...
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How can I explain to a friend's child that I don't like sleepovers without parents?
You've got fine answers already, but I'd like to add, that you are not paranoid at all.
I'm actually surprised you will be alone in your house with a kid in the daytime.
When we have had other peoples ...
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How to clearly communicate that you're asking someone on a date?
Including the word 'date' is making it so strange to ask. There is no way to make it witty that way.
What I like to do is make clear that I am interested romantically in them and then set the date. ...
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