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Start by considering your friend's position If you accept the premise that there is systemic racism making the lives of certain people more difficult through no reason beyond their heritage or colour of their skin (and it sounds like you do as you want to support your friend). Then I suspect the difference of opinion between 'Black Lives Matter' (BLM) and '...


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First, let me explain why your friend has a problem with "all lives matter." It sounds like a rebuttal, like you're correcting the person who said Black Lives Matter. I've seen analogies like "if someone says Save the Whales you don't say All Marine Mammals Matter" or if one house on the block is on fire, you don't spray water on the house across the street ...


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How do I let this person know that I find these kinds of replies unhelpful? Telling someone their feedback isn't helpful is by itself not helpful either. Unless this person is intentionally giving you bad advice (which I doubt based on the comments they made), it'd be more effective to help steer their feedback. Something along the lines of: I was looking ...


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Even though your response was reasonable, you were giving unsolicited advice. Whether you had good intentions or not, not everyone is open to that. There are two articles that summarize research done into advice. The main conclusion is that giving advice creates a power imbalance. The following quotes from the linked articles might give more insight into ...


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