New answers tagged

0

I am an Indian female and I have encountered such situations from my other Indian colleagues as well. Most of them assume that it is bad manners to shoot a question directly and hence get into such greetings. I have even had colleagues initiating the conversations by asking me how my weekend was or how I am these days or the kind of tasks that I am working ...


0

Disclaimer: I have no personal experience with communicating with indians. This answer is based on what my family members have told me (they have worked with Indians) and on what I remember from reading on stackexchange. Quoting Enderland from his workplace.SE answer explains a lot: Westerners are normally blunt and value "efficient" communication as ...


3

It is true that when you tell someone "please call me Vashkarzas", or anything else about yourself, they can hurt you with it. Make up a mean nickname that sounds somewhat similar, or deliberately mis-spell or mis-pronounce it, for example. But revealing some small part of yourself can bring many rewards. You can be proud of your name or your gender or ...


4

There are certain techniques for 'active listening' that don't involve you agreeing or elaborating, but encourage the other person to talk (and release emotion). Here's a couple of useful ones: Mirroring: Best, in my opinion. Repeat the last / relevant 2-3 words as a question. Really encourages them to elaborate, and you can do it repeatedly without them ...


13

I'll try answering this question (my first attempt at this site). I transitioned years ago, and received messages from unexpected people reaching out. To use her correct name, or not? Surely it's clear that deliberate deadnaming is not a good idea. From my point of view, if someone uses my name and pronouns, I automatically feel significantly more at ...


1

First, I think Harper's answer is very good, and could work. Since you asked how to get the money back I feel my experience in a somewhat similar situation could be of help. Background for my thinking: Long time ago I was in a similar situation, not in an artistic related project, but I was doing a project for someone else, this person wasn't a great ...


4

It's conceivable that Saxton has my problem: falling into a common habit called "procrastination". Many potential activities, a certain freedom to choose which ones... I find it is easy to choose wrong, and fall into a habit of choosing wrong over and over. Sometimes with too many tasks I will lock up and do none of them. What can often help a ...


7

Social Media is your best bet here. It sounds like you weren't very close before so a phone call or even a text may be a bit too intrusive as most people only give out their numbers to friends, family and maybe some colleagues. Social media is a better route as it's usually much easier to find someone on something like Facebook through existing connections ...


24

This answer is informed mostly by personal experience and a little by conversations with transgender peers. I'm trans (Female to Male, pre-transition). I would prefer, in this circumstance, by a significant margin, being referred to by my preferred name and pronouns. It would be a lot easier for me to understand that someone did not try to stalk me, or ...


-1

Intent can matter more than words. If you message her with the intent of being friendly and getting reacquainted and making sure she's doing alright the exact wording of your message won't be as important as the feeling your message carries. Getting too bogged down with making your message 100% percent politically correct and distant enough to avoid ...


Top 50 recent answers are included