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You cannot achieve this goal. This is partly because you can't, in general, get people as a whole to do anything. But for this particular case, it is because society has very strongly trained women to …

I have a friend who speaks very loudly, especially when she's having a good time. I don't try to change her, and I don't worry that she's causing anyone damage by just happening to have a louder set p …

Actually, "I tried to program and I can't" is not destroying themselves. It's at most a mild put-down of themselves, though that is not how they intend it. What they are trying to say is "I am pretty …

People often give me praise that I think contains a kernel of putting themselves down. For example, on hearing about something I have done "oh, you must be really smart!". Because I hear "not like me" …

I'm not sure a single cell phone, or half the cost of two new cell phones, is a very good wedding present. Most wedding presents are for the couple's new home, or for their new life together. Kitchen …

I don't know the culture in which you and your acquaintance live, but I would interpret all these actions precisely the opposite of how you are interpreting them. If someone moved back to my city and …

There really is no single answer to this. Sometimes, there is no need for "response time" at all. You want a blank form or the list they keep of whatevers, they just immediately hit reply and give you …

I may be wrong here, but I see in your responses a pattern of needing to share your opinion on everything, and needing to be right as well. Let me offer you some words you could use in response to thi …

There is a saying "if you have to ask, you can't afford it." This saying isn't true. A simple and honest approach would be I would love to have one of your works but they are so lovely, I suppose …

First, you need to know the origins of the phrase. It is the opposite of "politically incorrect". 20 years ago, we didn't tell people "be politically correct" we told them "don't be politically incorr …

I exchange a LOT of emails (and skypes etc) with people I don't know well, to set up times for things, and sometimes mention personal reasons for rejecting a particular time. I am never offended if th …

You don't know what Leon is thinking, of course. But I can pretty much guarantee he isn't thinking about you at all. He's going through a lot right now. He lost a friend to suicide. Some people may ha …

There's nothing wrong with asking him to send it to you. If you have not yet replied to the picture he sent, you could do something like this: Oh wow, I am really thrilled to hear that and thank y …

Here is one strategy that might work. You're a nice person, so play with anyone who asks. But, after a game where one person was clearly outmatched, on the advanced day, talk to them afterwards and sa …

Not by ceasing all politeness and happiness to everyone, but as you did before, by directly saying you're not interested. …