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For questions about interactions with friends, people with whom you share personal details of your lives and enjoy shared activities.

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Politely reject advice because I don't respect the source's judgment

I am going to give you a few disagreements before I answer your literal question. The first is, why should you in fact reject that advice? The fact that someone isn't able to stay in a relationship an …
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1 vote

How to tell a friend that she is too loud when she speaks without offending?

I have a friend who speaks very loudly, especially when she's having a good time. I don't try to change her, and I don't worry that she's causing anyone damage by just happening to have a louder set p …
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3 votes

How do I lovingly end conversations without being rude?

It sounds like you're worried that telling the person the conversation needs to end will hurt their feelings. You can take advantage of a funny quirk of people. If you say Well, I don't want to talk …
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3 votes

How do I ask my friend to stop doing inappropriate things to me?

Long term, either A will grow up (no matter how old you all are) or you will find different friends. …
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3 votes

How to address issue of friend not replying to specific questions

There are many reasons why a person might not answer a direct question like "when are you back from vacation?" As you've suggested, they might not have seen it. They may have been distracted by some o …
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9 votes

How to get a friend to stop acting like a therapist?

There are friends who will say this -- not for you, but for themselves. And that's fine. After all, Joe isn't your therapist and isn't here to listen to your problems. … Save the deeper stuff for true friends. Personally, I've changed the subject with people who won't stop telling me how terrible things are for them, probably thousands of times. …
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4 votes

How can I avoid misunderstanding in this case?

I have had times when I could not walk far, and so have many of my friends. …
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18 votes
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Trust issues with male friend: how to make him understand I can't tell him about everything?

If the two of you are building a real relationship, it will have times you are together a lot and times you focus on other things: family, schoolwork, other friends, your health. … Isn't that what friends and boyfriends do? So, how do you tell him you don't trust him enough to trot out your secrets, sadnesses, and complicated past on demand because he's curious? …
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17 votes

How can I talk to my friend in order to make sure he won't stay more than two weeks?

Both of my children have taken in friends with nowhere to live and yes, faced the issue of how to limit that stay. I think the key is in the way you tell the person they can stay. …
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6 votes

How to talk about my life without showing off?

I've also had decades of experience with friends who do things like buy a plane ticket to go to a birthday party, at a time when I was struggling to afford basics and necessities. …
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9 votes
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How to politely offer someone reward/compensation for a favour?

If you intend to open the business, take his advice and retain him as your accountant for that business. Doing some free work for new ventures is a classic way to get new clients. The cost of a little …
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15 votes

How do I stop a person I am not interested in being friends with from contacting me?

Lame excuses just lead to more asking. If you don't want to see him, just reply "No thankyou" or "Sorry, but no" or other fairly terse things when he invites you to get together. Someone who is willin …
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8 votes
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How can I communicate with my family and friend that they would appreciate the way I am?

There are two very different issues here in terms of your family and friends accepting your desire to have things a certain and specific way. … But for now, work on it not being a big deal, not something you get mad about, not something your family argues about, not something visiting friends feel they have to comment on. …
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4 votes

How to apologize for an unintentional personal attack?

First, let me explain why A thought your behavior was (perhaps bordering on) a personal attack. You're using a particular style of argument, where you get someone to imagine something that is very cle …
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11 votes
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How can I defuse this tension with my roommate so I don't feel scared to use the kitchen?

First, since you have been thrown out anyway, don't refrain from cooking. Cook what you bought. Do your best (see below) to make things better, but you probably can't make it worse, so eat your food. …
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