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Does Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" actually help us find people more interesting?

I'd bought Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People at a used book store years ago and later read it. The message I took away from it was that if we lead people to believe that we find ...
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Is silence an effective method for dealing with openly aggressive/confrontational individuals?

I would like to know more about whether there are methods or techniques relating to the use of silence when dealing with openly aggressive or confrontational individuals. In the past I have found ...
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Why do I lose my temper more easily if one of my own has been wronged than if I'm the one that has been wronged?

Interpersonal conflicts inevitably happen in life, under one form or another. As I'm being confronted by more conflicts as I grow older, I keep learning how to react better. In conflicts where ...
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How to detect and counteract gaslighting

Gaslighting is one of those things that becomes a logical trap for both the abused (they can look deluded, without physical evidence, which can lead to further manipulation) and also for a falsely-...
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Is apologizing counter to non-violent communication?

So I've been looking into non-violent communication (NVC) lately and I came across the following: Jackal Parent: Say you are sorry Jackal Child: I’m sorry Jackal Parent: You’re not really ...
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How to effectively counteract a rhetorical technique where a position around a complex issue is summarized in one word?

I've recently listened to an interesting Dutch podcast. The podcast talked about framing, and specifically about how people sometimes frame things by using a tactic that uses single words or images to ...
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What are some possible ways to maintain multiple friendships/friendship circles?

Context I'm in my early twenties. Most of my friends are either at the tail-end of their university degrees or have recently started working (I fall into this group). I have around 2 social friend ...
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Transactional Analysis: Dealing with a "Rebellious Child" [closed]

Transactional Analysis analyzes social transactions to determine the ego state of the patient (whether parent-like, childlike, or adult-like) as a basis for understanding behavior. A Child ego state ...
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Negative feedbacks and "Language smoother"

I don't know what is the "scientific" term for that but I noticed that, when people give negative feedback, they sometimes use "tricks" to make their words less harsh. For example, they will use ...
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What techniques are proven ways to fix an unbalance between levels of benevolence-based trust and integrity-based trust?

In my latest answer, I explained the concepts of benevolence-based trust and integrity-based trust: Intentions are more important than honesty for building benevolence-based trust. So, a pro-social ...
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Are longer, text-heavy slides more effective at communicating ideas than quick, numerous slides?

Most people have gone through their share of Powerpoint presentations where someone is trying to communicate a set of information. Most people also seem to hate these, and get distracted or bored. I ...
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Why do people expect me to feel exactly the same as they do?

Background My fiancee and I recently had a small argument over the following text exchange F: I wish I could have seen you tonight. Me: I would have liked to see you tonight too. F: I always want to ...
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Why do people want eye contact when talking?

A lot of people think that having eye contact when talking to someone is important, but why is that? Why don't we look at the mouth or hands or the whole face or body instead? Why are we supposed to ...
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Online conversation vs face to face interaction

There are a lot of articles out there about the dangers of internet and some of them talk about the fact that online interactions are nothing compared to face to face conversation. Those sort of ...
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Is this a known Interpersonal "Anti-Skill", if avoided could de-escalate conflict—or could it be original? I call it "barking" [closed]

I found a bad habit in my conversations. When I stopped doing it myself and became aware of it in others, tensions relaxed and conflict de-escalated. Everything I'm asserting is from my experience: ...
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What is "holding space" and how do I do it?

I recently came across an article titled A Man's Guide To "Holding Space", which was linked in an answer to this question. I had never heard the term before, but recognised some of my own ...
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How do I make my criticism constructive?

Occasionally, I will find myself in a position where I believe I have some insight as to how someone could improve. I have been thinking about how to give good constructive criticism and although ...
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How to use Social Penetration Theory to increase closeness with someone who doesn't normally talk about their feelings

I recently heard about Social Penetration Theory where the basic principle is that "in relationships, as people disclose more about themselves over time, those relationships develop layer by layer, ...
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Is there any research showing whether sandwich feedbacks are more effective than other forms of feedback?

So, I've been taught to 'sandwich feedback'. For those that are unfamiliar with the term, it means you start and end with giving compliments, and put the feedback in between those compliments. For ...
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Does talking about mildly taboo topics with people normalize the subject for them?

There are a lot of topics in daily life that many people avoid mentioning outright because they're slightly "icky" or it's considered "private" or somehow mildly taboo. One of these things I've run ...
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What impact does "mirroring" have on other people?

Mirroring is mimicking the body language of the person you are talking to. It is sometimes recommended for people to help "break the ice." But how does it create a positive impression? What do ...