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How to communicate to my mother that I find it hurtful when she cooks dessert for everyone except me who is vegan?
You are asking for something extra
I think it is perfectly fine to be vegan. But if there is a bunch of people to be cooked for, demanding a change of meals because of the wishes of one would be ...
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Is it acceptable to violate table manners in public due to my disability?
Can you violate table manners in public? Of course you can. Everyone can. In fact until someone learns them it's likely that they will be unintentionally violating them.
Table manners are just ...
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How to communicate to my mother that I find it hurtful when she cooks dessert for everyone except me who is vegan?
Originally commented on a different answer, but I want to flesh this out into a full response -
Unlike other answers, I don't believe your primary choice is to just accept this as what it is and move ...
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Girlfriend, vegetarianism and me not wanting to change
I post from the perspective of being a vegetarian myself and my boyfriend eating meat.
I think it's very important to talk more to her. It's important that you respect each others diets and this ...
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How to politely stress that I do not wish to eat something?
Your in-laws have broken your trust here. It's not so much about the diet itself (they're free to disagree with it, they can even refuse to cook it and let you cook) but this is about them refusing to ...
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What is the etiquette for asking whether someone has a special diet
The etiquette is for people with dietary restrictions to tell the host about it beforehand.
But it happens that these people forget to tell the host, and to prevent awkward situations at the dinner ...
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How can I stop my friend from replying "anything" when asking them what they'd like to eat?
First of all, you've stated you asked 'where do you want to go' and that if he answers 'Wherever', you have asked if there are restrictions/preferences on his side. I don't know how you asked, but ...
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Is it acceptable to violate table manners in public due to my disability?
Yes. In fact, "table manners" are a matter of circumstance, as anyone with a background in etiquette should tell you.
It is not physically possible for you to conform to my manner of eating, so I ...
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How can I politely tell a family who invited me for dinner that I'm still hungry?
My mom has a habit to cook for two meal times: breakfast and lunch, lunch and dinner, or even dinner and tomorrow's breakfast. Because of this, usually we only eat exactly half (or maybe even less) of ...
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How can I politely say to my coworker that he should not comment on what I am eating
Judging from what you said in the comments:
Yes but it looks like he doesn't like what he is eating since he is always complaining.
Your co-worker might very well be feeling a little jealous. ...
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How can I stop my friend from replying "anything" when asking them what they'd like to eat?
I think what your friend doesn't understand (and that many other answers are missing) is that it is work to figure out where to eat, and he's passing that work off to you every time.
Sounds like you'd ...
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How can I politely tell a family who invited me for dinner that I'm still hungry?
How could I have politely told the mom that I'd like to have been able to eat as much as I wanted to OR that I was still hungry because I didn't have enough food OR that I couldn't enjoy food if I had ...
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Girlfriend, vegetarianism and me not wanting to change
Hate to break the news, but this is often a part of dating vegetarians...
Like anyone with strong moral/ethical convictions they're very often inclined to want their partners to share their ...
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How to approach my spouse about their weight gain?
The first thing you need to ask her is: "Does she seriously want to lose weight?". There are people who realize that they are overweight, but do not consider it an issue which is serious enough to ...
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How to approach my spouse about their weight gain?
Even when I could point out some irregularity in her diet, I just can't say it without sounding rude. ...All in all, my goal is to help her in the long run, because it has gone too far.
Decide what ...
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How can I politely tell a family who invited me for dinner that I'm still hungry?
There are times that it may be impossible to do something politely, and this might be one of them. If by chance you were truly malnourished and actually required more food for health, then by all ...
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How do I tell my friend that his behaviour is odd?
The fact that you are both on the autism spectrum can work in your favor bringing this up because you can share a common point of view. You might ask him a more general starting question like:
I ...
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How can I politely tell a family who invited me for dinner that I'm still hungry?
1 pack of ravioli for 5 people? Sharing meals at restaurants? No seconds of dessert? Sounds a lot like my family growing up. Thing is we never thought of ourselves as tight and never went hungry. To ...
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Girlfriend, vegetarianism and me not wanting to change
From your other questions:
Alice began to develop a very bad body image and resorted to eating
almost nothing or vomiting her meals. [source]
Assuming this is true, this could be a very serious ...
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Is it acceptable to violate table manners in public due to my disability?
"Table manners" is just one small subset of overall "good manners". One hallmark of good manners is patience and respect, and a desire to make others comfortable in your presence.
Someone displaying ...
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How can I be more persuasive when assuring people that I am perfectly fine and healthy?
I have dealt with almost exactly the same things throughout my life, although in my case it was not limited to "new" people. Family members, significant others, and friends have become worried about ...
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Team goes to lunch frequently, I do intermittent fasting but still want to socialize
I'm an intermittent faster as well. I'm autistic and hardly ever feel hungry, so I skip breakfasts to make it a bit easier for me to feel the hunger. However, I have other dietary restrictions due to ...
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How can I stop my friend from replying "anything" when asking them what they'd like to eat?
Probably, he really does not know what he wants to eat; he may need some more time to understand what he really wants to eat. You could anticipate him by playing his same game:
Today I'm out of ...
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How to politely stress that I do not wish to eat something?
This is not about justifying your diet. Such discussions can be endless. The problem is that they don't respect your choice. The best approach is to appeal to their conscience.
You must make them ...
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How to tell someone that they are eating with their mouth open?
I think you should simply hold back (or wait until your girlfriend says something) because:
if your girlfriend is unwilling to mention anything to her, there are more negatives than there are ...
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