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You are asking for something extra I think it is perfectly fine to be vegan. But if there is a bunch of people to be cooked for, demanding a change of meals because of the wishes of one would be requiring something extra. Just because you choose not to eat something, does not mean everyone else is fine going with that and also not having that for family ...


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I vote to not bring it up. There are many things that are true but that don't need to be said. I'm single right now, but when I had a wife, I just can't imagine telling her, "Wow, there's this girl at work, Sally, who is just SO much prettier than you could ever be." Why bring it up? What is she going to do about it? It just hurts her feelings, makes her ...


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It is very rude to bluntly say you won't use her email address. In my opinion you shouldn't turn her down at all. Take the email, thank her and just don't use it if you don't want to use it. In this case it was a very concrete gesture with her handing an address but usually these kind of things are just said as a gesture of goodwill and friendliness. And ...


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As you have already indicated, you do not owe your former employer anything outside of any official contract you have signed. If you look at it from the other perspective, you could certainly not expect your employer to pay you for work that you did not do. In order to politely indicate that you are no longer available to perform tasks for him, you could say ...


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Originally commented on a different answer, but I want to flesh this out into a full response - Unlike other answers, I don't believe your primary choice is to just accept this as what it is and move on. However, I don't think that a monologue about how she's making you feel is going to make her more likely to accommodate you. If anything, approaching ...


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Give him a quote (as in, a cost estimate), based on how many hours you'll need to write it. I'm not kidding. Writing the article wasn't on your job contract. So he's hiring you as a subcontractor to do some work (ie, write an article for him). Well, in his mind the words "hiring" may not sound exactly like that, more like "exploit" since he wants you to do ...


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In the United States and Canada, you can call a fire marshal (firefighters in France according to OldPadawan's comment) to come in and evaluate the entrance for fire code enforcement. They can order the installment of signs which say "No parking or standing at any time" and if the neighbor continues to violate the signs then you can call police to ticket ...


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You confront directly. Excuse me, do I know you? Are you taking photos of me? Obviously, do this if you're fairly sure someone is taking photos of you, but it does seem pretty likely to me from what you're saying. In cases like this, directness is appropriate.


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I don't think you should really complain directly. Some people, like me do not really mind if the bread is really fresh because I don't consume it right away. I think telling what you are looking for is not something that should offend your baker. But you might want to do it by asking with a positive attitude. Instead of telling him you are unhappy about ...


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I've posted similar answers to similar questions before, but this isn't strictly a duplicate, so here we go again. What I find helpful when I have to deal with similar things in my workplace is to shake my head to indicate "no" and walk away. It's a simple gesture of disapproval and then an exit. Even when I'm stuck working in the same room ...


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Is there a way to avoid/break these situations without creating an awkward ambience? The absolute best thing you can do is be open and honest with your doctor. I would tell them "Hey doc, I really don't like being touched. I know you have to touch me to do your exam in order for me to get the best treatment, but please only touch me when medically ...


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Why they choose to park at the door and block other people is irrelevant. Their car may be made of glass, they may have OCD, they may be jerks that don't care about other people. Whatever the reason, they need to not park there. I agree with the other answers that this is something to take up with your landlord. The way to get your landlord to take ...


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Her becoming upset about the matter will most likely come from a place of trying to make you feel included but failing to do so (seeing as she had checked the ingredients but missed the cheese by accident). I would approach the subject with a very polite "thanks for putting in the effort to make me feel included"-mindset. Make sure to let her know that you ...


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Anecdotal but probably relevant: When we moved to our neighbourhood (Germany, rural area, medium size community) we threw a "Garage Party" and invited the closest neighbours. That is the ones you'll likely be running into and say "hi". (Ended up to be around 20 people) We wrote invitation cards and simply dropped them in their mailboxes two weeks prior. ...


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I'm not sure that you can get them to stop laughing. What you might be able to do is to shift the meaning of the laughter. Rather than say, "Well, actually, not all wines are vegan", consider the following conversation: Actually, even things made entirely from plants can be non-vegan if they are prepared with animal products. And wine is on the list ...


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A very powerful way to get your mother to support your choice, or at least to stop arguing with it, is to stop explaining or defending it. She has heard your reasons many times, I am sure. She has rebutted them. She has presented her reasons. What you probably don't realize is that when you tell her a reason, you are giving her something to argue with. "I ...


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I agree with you, the blame is not to put on feminism, or any other of her ideologies. The problem is that she is offending people who don't agree with her, ruining the times in which you guys hang out together. First of all try to point out how disrespectful her behavior is, and that there are other more appropriate ways to express her opinion. For example,...


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This is a difficult question because it depends heavily on the kind of person your boyfriend is, and the type of relationship you have. In my experience, the best way to handle these situations is to first evaluate how the other person would feel about you sharing this type of information. Almost everyone is experienced enough to realize that their partner ...


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Is there any way, to get her to stop that behavior ? Unfortunately, that seems utterly impossible by human means. You have made yourself clear, ignored her, complained, moved around, threatened, and so on... What's left? Quit and move away from this toxic environnment (later, as you said). Get help. Take legal action. DISCLAIMER: I'm not a lawyer, but ...


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Short answer: I would not waste energy trying to solve or worrying about this. In this day and age where virtually everyone has a video camera in their pocket, I would not concern myself with this at all as this is not any where near in your control. What are you going to do, confront everyone who could potentially be taking a photo or video of you? I ...


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Fellow vegan, so I know what this is like. I often get colleagues offer foodstuffs that are non-vegan (such as cakes containing milk, egg etc) and confusing veganism with vegetarianism (to the point people seem to be on the verge of arguing the incorrect definitions). Firstly, you need to stop worrying if people believe you or not, there will always be ...


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No one else has answered the true question yet. How could I have tactfully let him know that I didn't have to write this article The other answers are suggesting ways you can avoid doing it - or do it and invoice him - which is not the same as what you're asking. You asked how you can tell him that this is not your responsibility (which it isn't). I ...


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Be specific. Instead of asking "is it fresh?", which sounds both accusatory and vague, ask: What time did this batch come out of the oven? Here, you are just asking for information. It's up to you to decide what you consider to be fresh enough. What's the best time to come for fresh-out-of-the-oven bread? That would be a way to strike ...


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Handling it within a debate Being in political circles and debate clubs in the past I know your pain. People are very passionate about what they believe and get themselves into a specific mindset, I am exactly the same on certain topics and there's no shifting what I believe through purely verbal debate (without verifiable facts). If anything it wants me to ...


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I agree with other posts that this just might not need to be said...but if responding seems unavoidable, I'd go with something like: "Frankly...I'm still kind of reeling from (bad past interaction). Sorry." It offers closure without an excess of rudeness, or the passive-aggressiveness of changing the topic, which I know I for one would find much more ...


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I think what you are taking as somewhat rude and insulting, is generally not meant that way. It is definitely a misguided thing to say, however. I am NT myself, more or less, and I agree with your opinion that it's invalidating and rude, but I believe that people usually say that another person doesn't "look" autistic because they don't know how to respond ...


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