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How to communicate to my mother that I find it hurtful when she cooks dessert for everyone except me who is vegan?
You are asking for something extra
I think it is perfectly fine to be vegan. But if there is a bunch of people to be cooked for, demanding a change of meals because of the wishes of one would be ...
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I have a crush on a coworker but won't act on it, how can I tell my boyfriend about it and that I'll remain faithful?
I vote to not bring it up.
There are many things that are true but that don't need to be said. I'm single right now, but when I had a wife, I just can't imagine telling her, "Wow, there's this girl ...
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How to turn down 'stay in touch' proposal from manipulative ex-coworker when leaving job/moving?
It is very rude to bluntly say you won't use her email address.
In my opinion you shouldn't turn her down at all. Take the email, thank her and just don't use it if you don't want to use it. In this ...
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How can I tactfully tell my ex-superior that I don't owe him anything?
As you have already indicated, you do not owe your former employer anything outside of any official contract you have signed. If you look at it from the other perspective, you could certainly not ...
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How to communicate to my mother that I find it hurtful when she cooks dessert for everyone except me who is vegan?
Originally commented on a different answer, but I want to flesh this out into a full response -
Unlike other answers, I don't believe your primary choice is to just accept this as what it is and move ...
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How to try to get my neighbour to park their car in their assigned spot?
In the United States and Canada, you can call a fire marshal (firefighters in France according to OldPadawan's comment) to come in and evaluate the entrance for fire code enforcement.
They can order ...
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How can I tell my date that one of her close friends outed her to me as trans?
Trans woman here, so this is entirely how I would handle it from my perspective.
First, I like the inclination that you have to tell her that someone is outing her. That is dangerous. People lose ...
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How to ask my local baker if he is always selling freshly baked bread
I don't think you should really complain directly. Some people, like me do not really mind if the bread is really fresh because I don't consume it right away.
I think telling what you are looking for ...
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How can I try to get my coworkers to stop their jokes on LGBTQ+ people
I've posted similar answers
to similar questions before, but this isn't strictly a duplicate, so here we go again.
What I find helpful when I have to deal with similar things in my workplace is to ...
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How to communicate to my aunt that she made an honest mistake when buying food for a family meal?
Her becoming upset about the matter will most likely come from a place of trying to make you feel included but failing to do so (seeing as she had checked the ingredients but missed the cheese by ...
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How to try to get my neighbour to park their car in their assigned spot?
Why they choose to park at the door and block other people is irrelevant. Their car may be made of glass, they may have OCD, they may be jerks that don't care about other people. Whatever the reason,...
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How to introduce myself and my family to a new neighborhood?
Anecdotal but probably relevant:
When we moved to our neighbourhood (Germany, rural area, medium size community) we threw a "Garage Party" and invited the closest neighbours. That is the ones you'll ...
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How to explain to coworkers that being vegan does not mean I know everything about it?
I'm not sure that you can get them to stop laughing. What you might be able to do is to shift the meaning of the laughter. Rather than say, "Well, actually, not all wines are vegan", consider the ...
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Help my mother to understand my choice when it comes to having children
A very powerful way to get your mother to support your choice, or at least to stop arguing with it, is to stop explaining or defending it. She has heard your reasons many times, I am sure. She has ...
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Convince somebody to stop flirting with me
Is there any way, to get her to stop that behavior ?
Unfortunately, that seems utterly impossible by human means. You have made yourself clear, ignored her, complained, moved around, threatened, and ...
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I have a crush on a coworker but won't act on it, how can I tell my boyfriend about it and that I'll remain faithful?
This is a difficult question because it depends heavily on the kind of person your boyfriend is, and the type of relationship you have.
In my experience, the best way to handle these situations is ...
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How to handle very opinionated and aggressive friend?
I agree with you, the blame is not to put on feminism, or any other of her ideologies. The problem is that she is offending people who don't agree with her, ruining the times in which you guys hang ...
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How to explain to coworkers that being vegan does not mean I know everything about it?
Fellow vegan, so I know what this is like.
I often get colleagues offer foodstuffs that are non-vegan (such as cakes containing milk, egg etc) and confusing veganism with vegetarianism (to the point ...
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How to handle very opinionated and aggressive friend?
Handling it within a debate
Being in political circles and debate clubs in the past I know your pain.
People are very passionate about what they believe and get themselves into a specific mindset, I ...
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How to ask my local baker if he is always selling freshly baked bread
Be specific. Instead of asking "is it fresh?", which sounds both accusatory and vague, ask:
What time did this batch come out of the oven?
Here, you are just asking for information. It's ...
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Why is it socially not acceptable to point at someone with your finger?
(Moving my comment to a full-fledged answer)
As well as designating someone/thing, a pointed finger may also be an accusatory gesture.
Without any context, the person being pointed at (or people ...
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How can I tactfully tell my ex-superior that I don't owe him anything?
No one else has answered the true question yet.
How could I have tactfully let him know that I didn't have to write
this article
The other answers are suggesting ways you can avoid doing it - or ...
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