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How should I tell someone about a potential medical issue?

This is a tricky situation but ultimately can be a matter of life and death. I will recommend you to tell him. Since it is a health related topic. Bottom line is that you can save someone's life. ...
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How to tell my Mom that I don't care about someone without upsetting her?

Once I went to the funeral of a distant relative of my young nephew, he asked me why I went to the funeral, because I did not even know the person who died. My answer was simple: I came for you, ...
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Co-tenants set up an inflatable pool outside my window. It's now breeding bugs. What can I do?

You've told them that standing water can cause problems with bugs, but that doesn't mean they've made the connection. People hear "X could cause problem Y" and dismiss it if they don't personally ...
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How should I tell someone about a potential medical issue?

I find that leading with a question rather than a statement works better for casual acquaintances. Open with something like "hey, are you aware that that mole above your eye has been growing?". It's ...
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How to get my parents to take my Mother's cancer diagnosis seriously?

There's probably nothing you can do from so far away. I'm sorry. I know that is such a terrible thing to hear, but as long as your mother or father maintains autonomy over her medical treatment your ...
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How to tell my Mom that I don't care about someone without upsetting her?

To address your question directly: How can I tell my Mom that I don't care about her mother without upsetting her? You can't. You cannot expect to tell a relative that you do not care about a ...
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How can I be more persuasive when assuring people that I am perfectly fine and healthy?

I have dealt with almost exactly the same things throughout my life, although in my case it was not limited to "new" people. Family members, significant others, and friends have become worried about ...
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How to tell an employee that someone in their shop is not wearing a mask?

I've worked retail in The Netherlands for quite a while. I've had customers point out things that needed my attention. Of course, there's different ways this can be done and some are nicer than others,...
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Co-tenants set up an inflatable pool outside my window. It's now breeding bugs. What can I do?

I'd go with one last, final warning. No gentle coercion, but cold hard truth. Tell your roommates that: There are mosquitoes breeding in the water. I'm assuming hot weather, so you want to be able to ...
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SARS-CoV2: When conflict arises over wearing masks, what should I say?

(Since you edited your question, I can now try and give a proper answer). Considering that those "badly-wearing-mask people" live in the same country as you, where safety advice from the ...
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How to get my parents to take my Mother's cancer diagnosis seriously?

To clarify the analytical evaluation presented in this answer, I will introduce a summary of the main points, followed by my answer, to show that you can help by respecting your parents' intelligence; ...
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Acknowledge there is a problem without making the other person more worried

This sort of thing is a very common problem for lots of people. I've been there too. When a statement is vague, it can help to use a technique called "active listening" to learn more. So you could ...
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How can I be more persuasive when assuring people that I am perfectly fine and healthy?

Don't over-explain or discuss. "I'm fine with a muffin, thanks for bringing them in." Come up with a simple phrase, maybe: "My doctor is happy with my weight". Repeat, repeat, repeat. Make it ...
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How to tell to my mother that I don’t want to do certain things she requests me to do?

As my mother used to say: If you don't want to be treated like a child, stop acting like one! And of course the converse is true - if you want people to respect and treat you as an adult you need ...
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How can I safely talk with my sister about her health?

My 2 cents: I have and currently am in the same boat as your sister. My mom is extremely athletic, but my dad and sister are also extremely not. I grew up doing varisty everything and like your sister,...
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How can I avoid asking leading question when inquiring for someone well being?

As someone who was once very ill indeed, and had to fill a lot of people in, and also as someone who has had "fussers" in my life who irritate me with the health questions they asked, let me offer ...
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How to support my friend who is going to have surgery?

Like your friend I've been a young person going through a couple of heart surgeries (minor ones relatively speaking and I was in my early twenties). Also like your friend, I have high-function ...
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How should I tell someone about a potential medical issue?

From the way you've presented this question, you've convinced me that this is probably something worth pointing out. I also understand the sort of unitentional tracking of the size of his mole; you ...
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How to get my boyfriend to workout?

Your issue is really a difference in lifestyles. When I was in sports in college, it was a challenge to convince my girlfriend that I needed to take the time to engage in training instead of spending ...
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How to ask people to speak softer?

Perhaps you could try a big sign in some bright color like yellow or red so that it gets noticed (like a street sign) that says in big bold letters: Shhh, Speak softly." Then underneath in ...
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How should I tell someone about a potential medical issue?

Just tell him. Apologize for it, give him enough information to indicate you have some experience, and let him know. Then don't bring it up again unless he brings it up. I know we're not close, ...
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How should I tell someone about a potential medical issue?

Since you have regular, friendly contact with this person, it should be straightforward. Tony, I don't know if you've noticed, but the mole above your right [left] eyebrow has changed recently. ...
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How can I be more persuasive when assuring people that I am perfectly fine and healthy?

Well, it's very nice of them to be worried about your health. They seem to be very nice people. In my opinion, all your approaches are fine and I'd say that you should try your second approach more. ...
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How to tell to my mother that I don’t want to do certain things she requests me to do?

How can I ask her these 2 questions in such that she won’t have to get angry at me? From what you wrote it sounds like this is a trust issue. Your mother does not trust you to behave like a ...
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How to tactfully tell a martial arts instructor that I was freaked out by his lack of action?

I have practiced several martial arts. In one of them I got close to get a black belt. However I was never interested in really violent martial arts, so I didn't have to deal with blood like you ...
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How to tell my Mom that I don't care about someone without upsetting her?

Simple Answer: You Can't. I agree with the advice given by Santiago and Dancrumb. It would not be productive to simply tell you're mother that you don't care about your grandmother, but it would be ...
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SARS-CoV2: When conflict arises over wearing masks, what should I say?

Be content with your efforts to protect yourself. Know that you are doing everything you can to prevent the spread of Covid. And let everyone else manage themselves how they see fit. I'm right! I've ...
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