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How to handle a person joining a conversation by asking a question you just answered?

I ran into this issue multiple times and I don't know how to act. For context: communicating in groups does not come naturally to me, so I often rely on skills I learned over time and not everyone may ...
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How to gain group respect in a workplace setting?

This question is posted as first person but on the behalf of another person. Some details might be lacking. I work in a nursing home, as a full time employee since two weeks. My contract is for a ...
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Native english speaking project partner writes in broken english

Issue I'm doing my capstone course for an engineering diploma program One of my partners is a native English speaker, but has severe issues in their writing In conversation she is fine, but has an ...
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Dealing with a new clique

My research group has a new member who is more outgoing than anyone else and draws a lot of attention to himself. He likes socializing a lot more frequently than I prefer to and has a more-the-...
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How to politely address the rude accusations being thrown your way?

I don't know if the title of this post is explanatory and descriptive or not, but I shall be giving a detailed insight of my problem below. Situation: So there is this committee in our college who ...
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How to do you politely tell somebody to stop interrupting a conversation? [closed]

Participants: person A was telling a story; person B (me) asked a follow-up question while person A was talking (telling the story); person C (a friend) aggressively told me to stop interrupting. ...
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How do I convince my friends to move their group chat?

I am in a fairly large friend group - 12 people. We all go to the same school, but don’t interact much during the school day. Everyone in this group uses apple devices except one person - me. This ...
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How can I jump into a fast-moving group conversation?

Recently I was invited to a casual games night at a coworker's place, and near the end of the evening there was a group of about 6 of us (a couple coworkers of mine, a couple friends of theirs, my ...
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How can I greet people when I encounter someone searching for bottles in trash cans?

Often, when I bring out trash, I see homeless people (maybe not all of them are homeless, I'm not sure) searching for plastic bottles and other things in trash cans. Usually I greet neighbors and ...
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Stop disrupting behavior from a complete stranger

I recently started learning a new language. Together with studying it, I am also attending a conversation group, where people learning the language and people with native proficiency in the same ...
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Raising the stakes in a game without sounding eager or greedy

I was playing cards with some friends. The game was based on points, which we could use for bidding, hence winning or losing them. The game seemed to go well, until I had the impression that the ...
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How do I stop my classmates from overusing class property?

My classmates simply love doodling on the whiteboard. Using our class markers. Not only do I find it useless and annoying (it often causes chaos with what they write) it uses up ink. Just a week after ...
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Avoiding conflict when showing my family my new name

I don't like my name, I never had. Recently, I found myself a new name that I really love and I have started using it online. Now, the thing is that I just received a (nice) mug with my "new name" on ...
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How do I diplomatically get someone to hurry up and make a trivial decision?

This question was initially triggered by an incident with a houseguest a few months ago. Earlier in the day, he was tossing up whether to join a group of us who were going out for a drink in the ...
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How to make a new trainee feel comfortable at lunch?

Today, one of my coworkers "tasked" me to eat with the new trainee (so that she won't eat alone since my colleague wasn't available for lunch). I wanted this person to feel comfortable so I ...
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How to introduce change in a process while avoiding conflict?

I'm a 23-years-old Q&A engineer who recently started a job in a company who never had Q&A before. The other day, I was talking with my chief and the chiefs of the development team and told ...
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Group Date Split Check

My wife and I would like to ask another couple to a group date at a local restaurant. I'm fine with this, but I'm unsure as to whether a "group date" implies that the check will be split between the ...
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Taking space and engaging in casual group conversations [closed]

I often have difficulties taking space in casual group conversations, like when I go to the pub after work with a couple of friends or similar, even though I'm completely comfortable with the company. ...
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How can I point out errors to a teammate in a group project without being the "bad guy"?

I am working in a university coding project of 8 people. We're working on gitlab and every time someone does a merge request, at least 3 people need to look over the code and upvote the request, if ...
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How to get over anxiety for an upcoming Christmas lunch at work? [closed]

Long story short, I have anxiety when in groups of large people, unless I know them all very well. Each year everyone at my work (about 20 people in total) goes to an office Christmas lunch. This is ...
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Working with a team of close-knit bossy peers, from another career

I have an university course in which I (Software Engineering) was assigned to a group of close-knit friends of a business career. Lastly, it has been impossible to work with them, since: They have ...
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Dealing with people ignoring me, or talking over me

I have a group of friends, and we have been together for a while now where we meet once or twice a week, to play games together - D&D, board games, etc. It's a social event. However, especially ...
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How to interrupt someone while they are telling a group wrong/embarrassing information?

I've recently read a great question on Workplace.se and it reminded me of a similar situation I've come across a couple of times, where I did not know how to interrupt the speaker without embarrassing ...
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How to Encourage a Volunteer Group to be Timely?

I formed a small group that comes together to discuss work on personal projects, similar to a Master Mind group. While the members are enthusiastic about participating in the group, they are ...
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Declining to do exercises I think are unsafe without making a scene

I am part of a running group that meets every week. The running group is part of a large store, but is actually free (I think they do this for publicity and in hopes of people would buy things from ...
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How to tell someone to remove his plagiarism [closed]

I have to write a report with 3 other people about a project work. We split it up in different parts. First things went slowly and but a week later one group member have written a very good complete ...
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How can I ensure people know 'What happens on the pitch stays on the pitch"

Preface: I am an incredibly passionate and competitive soccer player. I absolutely despise losing and I love a good physical and mental battle when playing on the pitch. Recently, a new friend of ...
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How to throw out the group mentor in a proper way?

I am a part of an activity group of 10 members (in our case: theatre). We mostly get along pretty well, know each other for quite some years already, but have worked as such a group only for a year by ...
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How to approach talking to a group of girls as a guy without being awkward?

I'm trying to mingle with girls in my high school and I've never really done anything like it before (sounds funny but it's true). Anyway, there's a group of girls that I want to talk to but I'm not ...
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Get team member to participate in project

I am currently experiencing a very unpleasent situation. We are a group of 5, working on a software project for "professional school". We use Discord to organize us and to talk with each other. ...
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How to act out of concern for safety in group setting with an individual showing aggressive tendencies?

Not sure if this question is better for martial arts or what. The goal is personal safety, but I find it interpersonal because it's a matter of maintaining personal safety using 'soft' strategies (...
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Saying not interested to business offers in a group setting [closed]

I go to dance classes run by one group and we have a common facebook chat to suggest bars to go to that play suitable music. We've talked about how we need to support venues by inviting non-dance ...
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How should I tell my band-members I'm out?

I'm a 21-year-old guy from Denmark, who plays in a band. The band consist of: Lead vocal (LV) 35 Drummer (D) 42 Bass (B) 48 Rhythm guitar (RG) 54 Lead guitar (me) Context RG has been my guitar-...
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What are some examples of / what makes a good small talk question? [closed]

So often times I am at a social event and meet some one*. You start with the usual questions: Hi my/your name is? What do you do? Which are all good to get started. But inevitably this leads to ...
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Is it considered rude to not shake hands when wishing a group of people Happy Christmas and the like? [closed]

At work I have a close circle of about ten people that I interact with frequently. Then there are some eight people I do greet on the aisle, but we do not work closely together. And then there is a ...
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How do I stop people from expecting me to reply to SMS messages?

In my country, voice calls and SMS messages can either be paid by use or be bundled in some monthly fee that includes a limited amount of free messages and voice call minutes. The first option is ...
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How should I handle the "loudest" voice in a group project? [closed]

I am in a Software Engineering class in college. Person A likes to be the voice of everyone. For example, I would ask "What do you think of this?" And without any discussion and a very immediate ...
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How to enter a group conversation with relative strangers?

Imagine you're at a party or a networking event, or something along those lines. You're confronted with a large room full of people all talking in small groups. You know nobody or next to nobody here. ...
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What to do when a group conversation is not interesting?

Here's a little background on what type of people I'm dealing with: They're all in the same university that I go to. It's a faculty of engineering that has the most strict entrance exam in my country,...
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How to leave when I'm not part of the conversation?

This is something that I constantly run into. I don't talk much, especially in large groups, so there will often come a time when I want to leave, but don't know how to do so. I can think of two ...
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How do I meet new people in my new yoga class? [closed]

I have recently started going regularly to yoga, where there are a number of people that I find interesting and would like to get to know better, due to the nature of yoga I find that it would be bad ...
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What can I do to moderate my talking volume better when interacting with a group of people?

When I was in school I was active in Choir and Theater and learned to project my voice well. Topped off by a several years in the Army reinforcing the commanding tone, combined with a lack of ...
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How can I polite ask someone to blow their nose in public?

From time to time there are cases when I would really like someone (a friend/acquaintance of mine) to blow their nose, whether it be because they're constantly sniffling, or that I can see snot in ...
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Leading a meeting as a shy person?

I'm a shy person, and tend to be the last to speak in a discussion or meeting. But I noticed that in my group (a hobby group), most people are quiet too, and also passive when taking turns in ...
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